trust issues.

[PokerStar]

Hey Guys,

This is maybe more of a rant than a question.

Before I came on this site. Meeting women wasnt the problem, them flaking on me and creating interest was the problem.

Now that I am currently working on my game I have come to believe that i should never trust what a woman says. Trust her actions.

Now, cause of that, I think I have a developed trust issues with women. Except for my moms or sister or any part of my family. I dont trust any type of women outside of the family circle.

You can never know what goes through their head at any point and that is what irks me. Maybe this kind of thinking is not healthy or positive in that manner.

I woke up today and thought to myself, "what's the point of asking them out. theres is a 50% chance they will flake." and even if they dont flake. there is still a 50% chance she will go out with you again.

So its about 25% chance you get something solid out of it.

I dont know guys.

Dont get me wrong I still make the effort. Im still trying to improve myself physically, spiritually and mentally but man its a tough world out there. its even more tough if I cant even trust the opposite sex as far as you can through them.

/END RANT

 

[perseverance]

Trust is earned through actions.

I've learned this lesson the hard way on more than one occasion.

 

[pdx1138]

good for you on recognizing the current dating reality fiasco.

That's been my experience all year (1st date...then they lose interest)

The more it happens the less you will care and the better off you will be.

I finally had a break through with 2 highly interested women recently. Just keep working on it.

For the first time ever I got to be the one that lost interest after a first date. That felt great for a change.

 

[Chamber36]

I was actually having similar thoughts today or yesterday.

I got trust issues because the women I've slept with are mostly selfish, friends have screwed me over; robbed me, left me and whatever.

I met a chinese guy on a holiday last year in a bar. We were gonna smoke some weed and go out later that night. So he took me to his house and smoked up. Meanwhile I am thinking to myself: "how can this guy trust me enough to just take me into his house? How does he know I'm not taking advantage?", and for some reason, that guy never picked me up later that night to go hit the club.

Just the fact that I'm wary of other people, makes other people wary of me.

What am I supposed to do about it? I dunno...

 

[Alex DeLarge]

Trust the woman you are seeing until they give you a reason to not trust them (as long as you're not insane and think every second she's away from you she's sleeping with another guy). When that reason is given, it's done. Move on to the next.

I went through what you're going through too for a while. What you really have to do is just not care too much and don't dwell on it.. Take an attractive woman out, have a great time with her, but don't set yourself to believe "WOW SHE'S THE ONE" until she proves that she is the one. Live in the present. That's why it's also good to be seeing more than one woman or to occupy your life with things that you love doing. Or better yet, both!

We've all met terrible people, and we've all met good people. Usually the negatives have more impact than the positives in life.

For example, you approach a really hot woman, get her number and have a great few dates with her.. Then two weeks later she leaves you hanging and she dumps you.

Negative : A great girl left you.
Positive : You got a great hot girl's interest sparked and on fire for a bit. You're making progress!

Some people may say "I wish I never met her!", but by meeting her you made an improvement in your romantic life. You realized "Wow, I'm able to meet incredibly attractive women and get them in bed with me!".. I'd say that's better love life progress than a good friend who stays in LTRs with women he can't stand.

Some women are completely evil, some are good wholesome people. The evil women are just another checkpoint on a path to finding someone who you truly desire.. Who also truly desires you!

 

[Von_S]

Trust the woman you are seeing until they give you a reason to not trust them

Wrong.

Trust is EARNED not given, and men who give their trust to women up front (especially in this time) are AFC's to the max. Trust should be accumulated like drops in a bucket, but most women aren't worth keeping around until the bucket is full.

I trust me, I trust my brothers (literal and figurative) and I trust my mom (the ONLY woman I trust). Should I get married you had better believe I'm getting a prenup that looks like the US Constitution.