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Trust issues, insecurity

potharaju97

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Hey guys. I'm in this LDR with this girl for seven months.
We see each other like once a month. Last week she sent me a few pictures and then about 5 minutes later, she told me she was sorry. I asked her why and she told me she forwarded one of the pictures to her ex (who is a boxer and has sexy ass abs, we'll call him john). That ex of her's is coincidentally also her best friend. She apologized a LOT and also cried. She said it would never happen again and she didn't want me to break up with her. When I asked her why she said that, she simply said she didn't know why. But she was ****ing apologetic about it for two days straight and she got a fever also. I realized she's actually sorry and comforted her and made her happy again. That was the first time anything like that had ever happened to us. We might've fought before(nothing too serious) but it's the first time anything like this ever happened. I have access to her facebook account and I saw that she told that guy to delete the image as soon as she sent it. And that guy wanted to sext with her but she refused.
I convinced myself that I could trust her again and I was happy for the next few days and we were happy and we met each other and it was all going awesome.
Yesterday, I was feeling like crap about something and I started thinking about this stuff again. I shouldn't have done it. I regret it. Because everything was going well upto that point.
But I couldn't hold it in and I asked her why she would date me if she knew a guy like John. She said John was an Assole and I was a really nice, cute and sweet guy. I said that although he's an assole, he's a ****ing hot assole. She said she didn't disagree that he was hot but she loved only me and not him and to get it in my head.
Should I be worried, guys?
 

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"John was an a55hole, you were a really nice, cute and sweet guy".

Translation - I'm still f*cking and/or still thinking about f*cking my ex.

Drop her, cut all ties with her. If somewhere later on down the line she wishes to get back in contact with you, evaluate her as a potential plate and remain detached as possible.
 
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potharaju97 said:
Hey guys. I'm in this LDR with this girl for seven months.
We see each other like once a month. Last week she sent me a few pictures and then about 5 minutes later, she told me she was sorry. I asked her why and she told me she forwarded one of the pictures to her ex (who is a boxer and has sexy ass abs, we'll call him john). That ex of her's is coincidentally also her best friend. She apologized a LOT and also cried. She said it would never happen again and she didn't want me to break up with her. When I asked her why she said that, she simply said she didn't know why. But she was ****ing apologetic about it for two days straight and she got a fever also. I realized she's actually sorry and comforted her and made her happy again. That was the first time anything like that had ever happened to us. We might've fought before(nothing too serious) but it's the first time anything like this ever happened. I have access to her facebook account and I saw that she told that guy to delete the image as soon as she sent it. And that guy wanted to sext with her but she refused.
I convinced myself that I could trust her again and I was happy for the next few days and we were happy and we met each other and it was all going awesome.
Yesterday, I was feeling like crap about something and I started thinking about this stuff again. I shouldn't have done it. I regret it. Because everything was going well upto that point.
But I couldn't hold it in and I asked her why she would date me if she knew a guy like John. She said John was an Assole and I was a really nice, cute and sweet guy. I said that although he's an assole, he's a ****ing hot assole. She said she didn't disagree that he was hot but she loved only me and not him and to get it in my head.
Should I be worried, guys?
LDR hardly work even after investing heavily into the relationship. The fact she is friends with an ex is usually a deal breaker for me again this is an LDR there goes another red flag.

The fact that you have to CONVINCE YOURSELF is reason enough to end this only person who should be convincing someone is her. Always trust your gut.

This relationship has no hope other than a meaningless sex session and that is just straight truth.

Listen you are in high school why are you wasting some prime years on some female who is miles away? You should never have to invest to heavily in a relationship at your age and something as fresh as this already cooking all these problems there only getting worse and for what?!
 
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