"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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True love????

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by Jariel
The weird thing is, a lot of guys come here looking for love or relationship advice, but instead they get PUA techniques and anti-feminism pushed on them.
Excellent point. It takes a man to appear like a wuss in a man's forum.

(or, it takes a wuss... lol... but I'm sure you get my point)

Bitterness can completely dominate your outlook.

As a woman trusts you more, she will become more giving and free in the sack. Likewise, love (for those who can still feel it) adds quite a bit to the pleasure. Both are reasons to at least have a go at an LTR.
 

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You can fall in love in a week. 8 months is long time. Anyways dont be lame. If she was a virigin You will loose her someday. She will want to chekc the world. Prepare for it. SOrry dude.

Hey mightymate..I am sorry for what has happened to you..whatever women did this to you..I hope you find one someday that will change your negative perspective on life.

that is just another myth of shyt.


the only reason most of us sleep with multiple people is because society restricts us from being the people we should be..

we should all have kids by our late teens...but its pushed back.

which leaves more yrs for failure in LTRs...leading to more sex partners.

sorry dude, but not everyone man or women wants to go sleep around.


and women dont crave sex like men...if they did...OH MERCY
 

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Originally posted by frivolousz21
Hey mightymate..I am sorry for what has happened to you..whatever women did this to you..I hope you find one someday that will change your negative perspective on life.

that is just another myth of shyt.


the only reason most of us sleep with multiple people is because society restricts us from being the people we should be..
Hardly. Men like to sleep around because we're compelled to biologically, as are other male mammals. Our instincts and gut desires reveal our natural behavior. I don't know about you, but I basically want to fvck everything with 2 tapered legs and 2 breasts. It's only what's sitting above the breasts that makes things complicated.


and women dont crave sex like men...if they did...OH MERCY
I agree here, somewhat. Women don't crave sex exactly as men do. They crave sex in the context of a (complex and emotional) relationship. Sure, there are instances when girls need a quickie, but for the most part, it's the big enchilada, the R, that they want, with sex being only a part.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Men like to sleep around because we're compelled to biologically,


yea I agree with you..but its not the same for women and you explained that here:

Women don't crave sex exactly as men do. They crave sex in the context of a (complex and emotional) relationship. Sure, there are instances when girls need a quickie, but for the most part, it's the big enchilada, the R, that they want, with sex being only a part.
you are correct...a women would love sex better with a guy who is bad that she loves over the best lover on earth.

women do like sex..but they arent driven like us..i think about sex half my day..my fiance prolly does 1/50 of that
 

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Originally posted by frivolousz21
Hey mightymate..I am sorry for what has happened to you..whatever women did this to you..I hope you find one someday that will change your negative perspective on life.

that is just another myth of shyt.
Nothing happened to me. I never dated virigin. Im not tellin a myth but a truth.
If You are kind of guy who wants to spend life with the 1st chick he had sex withm You mut be ****in insane. And 95% of this population is not that insane. Even woman. Sorry. Trurh hurts. If You got virgin, she will cheat or You gonna loose her.
 

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Nothing happened to me. I never dated virigin. Im not tellin a myth but a truth.
If You are kind of guy who wants to spend life with the 1st chick he had sex withm You mut be ****in insane. And 95% of this population is not that insane. Even woman. Sorry. Trurh hurts. If You got virgin, she will cheat or You gonna loose her.

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ive had sex with a ton of women..if I didnt..then I might not of realized what I was missing out on.

since u know it..then show me some documentation that every person has to have more then 1 sexual intercourse partner
 

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You cant speand all life with same person... Im not saying that stuff to make You upset. More to warn You that this day comes... No offense. I know You wont listen to me now. But the stuff im saying is very logical.. It has to happen sooner or later. But maybe before it happends You gonna get bored with her.
 

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Originally posted by MightyMate
You cant speand all life with same person... Im not saying that stuff to make You upset. More to warn You that this day comes... No offense. I know You wont listen to me now. But the stuff im saying is very logical.. It has to happen sooner or later. But maybe before it happends You gonna get bored with her.

The stuff you say Mightsh!te is utter crap, you haven't a clue about real love and reliationships - so zip it kid.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Originally posted by MightyMate
You cant speand all life with same person... Im not saying that stuff to make You upset. More to warn You that this day comes... No offense. I know You wont listen to me now. But the stuff im saying is very logical.. It has to happen sooner or later. But maybe before it happends You gonna get bored with her.
The logic that you're using is one of the most detrimental ways of looking at relationships and people.

It's kind of like the logic of some girls that I've spoken to. I suppose guys use this logic too but I seldom talk to guys about these things.

Let's see how you're coming to your conclusions here. You say that this girl of frivolousz is gonna dump his ass because she was a virgin and she's only slept with him and she's probably gonna want to sample other d*cks. You come to this conclusion only with this information. You know nothing of their relationship, nothing about the girl's personality and character, nothing about the details of the situation they both are in.

What's my conclusion? That you are jumping to conclusions. Let's say you are frivolousz and you're in his position, you would be so fearful of the potential outcome that you would probably have left this girl. And all that you were thinking about is that you took her virginity. It's okay to be afraid, but I doubt you're gonna admit to feeling something like that.

If you weren't afraid, you wouldn't care if it happens eventually or not. All you care about is the moment you're in. The possibility of bad shyt happening is always floating around in your thoughts, but you know you're strong enough to face them and so you take what time you have now and enjoy yourself and make yourself feel good. If you wanna prematurely turn tail and run, so be it, but once again I doubt you'll admit to your cowardice.

It's either that or you've lost all potential to love and be commited to someone. Because if it isn't the fact that you took the girl's virginity, it'll be some other reason like "girls are stupid and insecure bytches who just wants to steal my money".

Bottom line, what you say COULD be true. It COULD happen. But the difference is you avoid it while the others experience it. Now, who's the lame and insane one?
 

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Don't bother with 'Mightsh!te' JonJack hes a well know useless troll around here.

The kid has never even had a girlfriend and likes to make up crap to amuse his tiny mind.
 

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Originally posted by frivolousz21
i think about sex half my day..my fiance prolly does 1/50 of that
i dont like thinking about it that way, and its not true for every woman.

as a real man outside of the matrix, you should know that you have the power of making your woman dream about sex with you all day long. It doesn't even take that much.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by Egoist
couple of observations:

8 months is not much. Most real LTRs that end, end at around a 2 year mark, somewhere in the 18-30 months range. Plus i would say wait for the baby and see how that goes. Just being realistic. Out of my LLLLTR, i was in love with g/f for like 4 years, slowly falling out for the next two.

as far as true love? i dont know man, i think there is just love. Its kind of like death, its either complete or thats not it. The rest is just infatuation, puppy love, etc.

What i don't understand is the perceived eternity of love. If anything, love does exist, its justified by our chemistry, maybe our soul as well, but thats another discussion. But who says it has to last forever? Love, real love, even for a day, even for a minute, is a precious gift. Just to have experienced it is already enough. Don't be scared to lose it, just enjoy it while it lasts, but if its gone, realize how lucky you were to have lived it, and move on. So it doesn't matter if its a month, year, ten years, fourty years. Many people who were really in love enjoy their time with their partner, but are smart enough to realize when its over and move on without regrets.
Have to agree that 8 months is not long. My current girlfreind has a track record of being engaged 3 times and having a longest of 5 years
 
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