TRUE Indifference

[PlayHer Man]

There is lots of talk about being indifferent but with most men its a bullsh!t game of passive-aggressive faggotry.

This is an example of true indifference actually posted by someone on CityData.com. The site (like most others) is filled with white knights, beta fags and shaming feminist c*nts. However, I like to check it sometimes to see whats new in my area (bars, clubs, events, restaurants, etc.)

Anyway read this --> http://www.city-data.com/forum/relationships/2001602-why-neglecting-women-works.html

You will see many c*nts and faggots shaming the guy (which is to be expected) but the post shows TRUE indifference and the power that comes from it.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Great post by that guy. Wish he'd post it over here so I could rep him

He wasn't attacking anyone, he was simply stating his own personal experiences.

Then he gets attacked and shamed for it.

I guess it's to be expected.

 

[Driggs]

white knights, beta fags and shaming feminist c*nts.

Where the heck did all these people come from all of a sudden?

 

[TitanSS]

The responses show you just how many people don't want to believe in the ideas of guys like Rollo Tomassi.

There's a reason girls are more interested in you when you have a girlfriend, even if they have no previous knowledge of it before meeting you. Your indifference towards them is a turn on.

I noticed girls were way more interested in me when I had a girlfriend way before finding this website, but had no idea how deep the **** went or even understood why that was the case until I started reading Tomassi's blog a week ago.

 

[Tictac]

True indifference comes from knowing that there is ALWAYS another and likely better woman.

It's never yet let me down.

 

[user name]

Indifference is indeed a powerful tool.

But indifference doesn't mean not being proactive. It also means not giving a fvck when you get blown out approaching.

Many a time have I regretted being indifferent with a 'sure thing' when I should have been proactive.

 

[PlayHer Man]

Look a that.. the thread has already been deleted!

 

[Trump]

Article is ok but seems a little drastic. The guys female friend is turned off when men chase after her? I don't know about that. And to completely neglect and not talk to women while working or out in public seems fake and contrived.

I think guy would be better to make his intentions known right away (sex).

 

[PlayHer Man]

If anyone still has the article up.. copy and paste it here.

 

[The Simple Man]

Indifference is indeed a powerful tool.

But indifference doesn't mean not being proactive. It also means not giving a fvck when you get blown out approaching.

Many a time have I regretted being indifferent with a 'sure thing' when I should have been proactive.

Then you hadn't been indifferent.

 

[user name]

Then you hadn't been indifferent.

was at the time.

regret it now.

This is not merely my opinion. This is based on years of personal experience and testimonies. I would like to share what I believe is the secret to being successful with modern day Western women.

Apart from food, water, and oxygen, the three things a woman needs are shoes, handbags, and attention. So, to most men, giving a woman lots of attention in order to procure her seems logical, yet the more attention you give a woman the more she retracts (in most cases). Here's the secret: although women love attention, they want attention from the man who's not giving it to them.

If you are a good/average looking guy in a bar, you won't have much luck going from woman to woman and using your charm to get her interested, unless you are very eloquent and have strong confidence. To the attractive woman you are ten a penny. She doesn't need another jerk telling her how beautiful she is. She already knows it. If there is nothing special about you that thrills her, chances are you're wasting your time.

Now here is my testimony: Many years ago I decided that I would never chase women. I was content with my life. I didn't need sex and I didn't need a relationship. I thought if other men wanted to make a jackass of themselves and chase after women then that's their choice. But I wanted no part of it. I had had enough of always being told that women should be respected, and that men are evil liars who use and abuse women etc. It got to the point where I became bitter towards women, and that I would only find peace if I shut women out of my life.

What I discovered was quite surprising: the more I ignored women and showed no interest, the more interested they became in me. I use to work on the doors as a bouncer, and inside the pub or club, I would never flirt with women or chat them up. I would always do my best to avoid eye contact. Yet so many women would approach me and show interest. Even outside of working hours, whether it was on the bus, or in a building, I would notice that attractive women would try to get my attention if I did not give them any attention.

One day I decided to have a laugh and I went onto a dating website. I made it clear on my profile that I only wanted friendship and that I had given up on relationships. I also made sure that I never contacted any woman on the website. In the first week, I had two attractive women interested in me. They told me they found me intriguing because basically I wasn't like all the other men: easy!

Not so long ago I got back in touch with an old female friend (By this time I was getting on better with women, but still wasn't interested in relationships). We started talking about men and women, and she told me that it turns her off when men chase after her. She absolutely hates it. It was the same with my ex girlfriend. Whenever I grovelled to her and acted like a wussy, she would try to make me feel even more guilty. But if I told her to get lost and walked away, she would come chasing after me.

A few years ago when I worked on the doors, a young woman approached me and told me that her older friend was interested in me. Her friend was in her forties, but she was very attractive. Still, I turned her down. A week later her friend told me that because I rejected her, she now wants me even more.

I actually find it quite funny. I find it hilarious when a hot looking woman walks towards me and I just look straight forward as though she's not there. I can just see out of the corner of my eye that she is looking, as I see her head turn to look at me. The reason I do this is because in the past I've noticed that if I look at them they will usually turn their head or put on a very bitter face as if to say, "Yer, I'm beautiful, and you can't have me because I'm too good for you." I no longer give them the satisfaction. I just act as though they don't exist.

Has anyone else experienced any of this?

Read more: http://www.city-data.com/forum/relationships/2001602-why-neglecting-women-works.html#ixzz2m4r8jNkm

 

[adam225]

Good read. Cheers PHM.

There are some right doormats on there lol. O well, some will never see the light...

 

[Albatross953]

I like the comment...I left my husband after twenty years for this...lol so alpha worked for that long? I'm sold!

 

[The Simple Man]

was at the time.

regret it now.

My point is if you are still regret about it, then you were not indifferent, you were pretending to be indifferent.

Indifference does not mean ignoring/avoiding women.

Indifference means putting YOURSELF out there, no faking, no pretending, and not giving a fvck whether that attracts women or not. Yes you have to communicate interest, but you do it YOUR way.

In that sense, a guy who are full of AFC games (buying flowers, gifts or whatever), but if that is who he is, women will be attracted. Only pretenders, fakers get rejected, since there is always something phony about them that people can pick up, maybe not in the short run, but in the long run they will exposed. And even when they succeed, there is always a deep dissatisfaction inside them.

Now we again go back to "Be yourself". I like it.

 

[user name]

My point is if you are still regret about it, then you were not indifferent, you were pretending to be indifferent.

Indifference does not mean ignoring/avoiding women.

Indifference means putting YOURSELF out there, no faking, no pretending, and not giving a fvck whether that attracts women or not. Yes you have to communicate interest, but you do it YOUR way.

In that sense, a guy who are full of AFC games (buying flowers, gifts or whatever), but if that is who he is, women will be attracted. Only pretenders, fakers get rejected, since there is always something phony about them that people can pick up, maybe not in the short run, but in the long run they will exposed. And even when they succeed, there is always a deep dissatisfaction inside them.

Now we again go back to "Be yourself". I like it.

Lol.

In my AFC days I had no trouble attracting women. In fact it was the reverse. I got women but I didn't know HOW I got women.

There were plenty of hotties that I let slip because I didn't think I had anything to offer them when all I should have been concerned about was getting them into bed.

Looking back, I wish I took full advantage of those situations at the time that they occurred rather than worrying about what would or wouldn't happen further down the line.

Maybe they read this lack of confidence as indifference and is what attracted them to me. Either way, we both lost out.

 

[Serenity]

Indifference is emotional detachment, but there are 2 meanings to it. The negative way is to not give a fvck about dealing with emotions, this leads to passive aggressive behavior. The other way is to be unaffected by others or your own emotions, but still dealing with the situation.

The last one is what we're looking for. In this mode you're able to deal with it without compromising your integrity, emotions or self-worth. You view the situation clearly and are able to clarify everything assertively.

If there is one thing I know it's that combining positive thoughts and integrity makes me extremely attractive.

 

[Decoy]

Indifference will provide success with women while compromising who you are. It seeps into other aspects of your life, including the ones you love. I do everything and make my family happy. However, there is no longer heart in it. It's an obligation. I'm not happy.

How did I go from this:

10-03-2012, 05:26 PM​

Heather wants to reschedule for this weekend.

I have other options, but this sh!t is annoying when have your schedule planned. I feel like nexting them just out of frustration.

I normally respond with

It's cool, maybe some other time
Then give them a call in a week.

How would you guys handle reschedules?

To this:
http://imgur.com/N2ddS73

In the course of a year? What will happen to me next year?

Indifference gave me dates, fvcks and forgets. I've lost empathy. I've lost a sense of myself. Am I just the compilation of seduction techniques? Or am I some who can proudly say this is the man I strive to be?

What is the response to a woman's sh!t test? My version of the sh!t test. What is the response to dealing with options? Make more options. What is the response to your ex going ghosts? Yup. At the end of the day, we are merely fighting fire with fire. It's almost like we need to WIN, but we are beta faggots to think of this as winning or losing. This stuff will consumed who you. You don't necessarily have to be this way.

So what is my future? I have no fvcking idea after swallowing the red pill and experiencing game.

Take what I can fvck?
Spread awareness?
Spit it back up? (Spoiler: You can't)
Going my own way?
Man up?

I have no idea, but fvck this. I owe it to myself to be happy. Changes need to be made.

 

[The Simple Man]

Indifference will provide success with women while compromising who you are. It seeps into other aspects of your life, including the ones you love. I do everything and make my family happy. However, there is no longer heart in it. It's an obligation. I'm not happy.

How did I go from this:


To this:
http://imgur.com/N2ddS73

In the course of a year? What will happen to me next year?

Indifference gave me dates, fvcks and forgets. I've lost empathy. I've lost a sense of myself. Am I just the compilation of seduction techniques? Or am I some who can proudly say this is the man I strive to be?

What is the response to a woman's sh!t test? My version of the sh!t test. What is the response to dealing with options? Make more options. What is the response to your ex going ghosts? Yup. At the end of the day, we are merely fighting fire with fire. It's almost like we need to WIN, but we are beta faggots to think of this as winning or losing. This stuff will consumed who you. You don't necessarily have to be this way.

So what is my future? I have no fvcking idea after swallowing the red pill and experiencing game.

Take what I can fvck?
Spread awareness?
Spit it back up? (Spoiler: You can't)
Going my own way?
Man up?

I have no idea, but fvck this. I owe it to myself to be happy. Changes need to be made.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=188294

 

[VladPatton]

Good article. I agree with the guy. The comments below, though..damn, gave me douche chills! I'm gonna have to borrow your phrase and say what a bunch of white knight faggots!!

 

[JoeMarron]

It makes sense. If women want their man to be of higher value than them then naturally she wouldn't want to be chased by him. Pursuing gives the impression that the woman is more valuable.