True Happiness?

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I've been thinking for a while now about whether or not I really am happy. Not just how I carry myself, but if I truly am happy with life. And so far, the answer seems to be no. I am happy to an extent, but still, deep inside me I am not fully satisfied-either with life or with myself.


But what makes you happy? What do you have to do to achieve this state, or actually not state as they are more temporary mindsets if anything, but achieve this permanent transformation of the mind? While I don't have much experience, I've read that seduction and getting girls doesn't bring true happiness. I'm ok with that. And the never ending cycle-if taken to with a wrong, misfit perspective brings you down rather than up. And I've even heard success in life doesn't lead to happiness (financial, educational, etc). What an elusive bastard.


Then I ask you guys, what path should I take? What are your experiences with any of these paths? And are you truly happy? If so, do enlighten us. Or just me, at least.

 

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[B[/B]True happiness is something that comes from within. Material things such as woman, cars, money, can never give you happiness. All of these things are just tools that enable you to have fun.EX. Growing up I lived in an apartment all my life. I had a very small room, and there was one bathroom between the 4 of us. Right now I live in 4000 square foot house, with 4 bathrooms, but this didn't make me any happier.


Happiness is seeing how fortunate you are with what you have. I work in a hospital and I witness alot of suffering. I realized that God has blessed me.

I feel these are the things that can make people happy.
1. Friends- Hanging out with good friends is a good stress release.
2. Being married with someone you really care about. A man- woman relationship is very unique and special.
3. Feeling a sense of achievement in life. - U live with no regrets.
4. Live in present and not in future or past. This is all we have.
5. Help and be kind to others. Treat everyone with respect.
6, Take hatred away from your heart. Racism, jealousy, cruelty.
7. Believing in a higher power, and realizing there is life after death.
8. Last but not least workout, When you look better You will feel better which in turn will make you happy.


There are many others but these are just some of the few.



REMEMBER EVERYONE> DON"T WORRY BE HAPPY

 

[joekerr31]

being happy does comes down to having a certain life perspective which includes

1) appreciating what you DO have (as long as your breathing you have something to be happy about)
2) learning to make logical decisions. as you make better decisions in life you'll see better outcomes and life will slowly get better and better
3) liking yourself (hard to be happy if you negatively judge yourself)
4) having various goals that you are working towards
5) being non judgemental of the world around you (which doesn't mean ignorant, it means not getting mad at people for behaving badly. just walk away. don't let toxic people into your life, but don't waste your time hating them either)
6) learn how to cope with stress (faith tends to be a big help here)


those all seem to play a big role in having a POSITIVE ATTITUDE on daily basis regardless of what is happening in your life.

now if you look at most people (especially women and AFCs), the general traits are

1) they are focused on what they DONT have
2) they make decisions based on how they FEEL
3) they put themselves down constantly
4) their goals tend to NOT be goals, but rather wants from #1 (I want a man, or I want a hot chic is NOT a goal, its a desire.)
5) most people are highly judgemental of others (it makes them feel good to knock others down. women LOVE to gossip. AFCs LOVE to talk about how women are such b*tches)
6) most people are ok with a nominal amount of stress. but the moment they lose their job, their gf sh*t tests them, etc. - they start to flip out.

MOST people aren't happy in life. and many who think they are, really aren't. they dont know what happiness is so they THINK the state they are in is one of happiness.

happiness isnt really that difficult to acheive - although in today's world where people are bombarded with advertising, work cultures and social networks filled with poeple with all the wrong traits, most people haven't found their way.