True Friends

[Luveno]

True friends take years to develop. It takes countless moments of happiness, frustration, trust, and compassion for a friendship to manifest with a person.

A friend will sacrifice something of theirs when you're in need, without demanding anything in return. And you, being a great friend, pay it back tenfold.

Now, how many girls who've LJBFd(let's just be friends) you match into the description of a friend above?

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.....


...... none.(no, she wouldn't come to your rescue if you needed her. Get that thought out of your head)



The dictionary defines a friend as:

A person whom one knows, likes, and trusts.


Since the phrase "Let's just be friends" is so commonly used by uninterested women, I wanted to explain why it is not an accurate statement.


So a friend is:

A person whom one knows, likes, and trusts.

Now, if a girl LJBFs you, she obviously does not mean friend in this sense. She does 'know' you (know who you are), but she doesn't like you, and she doesn't trust you. If she liked and trusted you, she would have accepted your advances! If she really did respect you, she wouldn't have to patronize you by giving you this empty statement, rather than telling you straight-up that she's not interested.

LJBFs are used by women to shield their conscience from the result of which your feelings may be hurt. It's akin to closing your eyes while shooting someone at point-blank range, and using the fact that you didn't see your target as you shot as an excuse to why you shouldn't be guilty of shooting the person. Doesn't make sense, does it?

So next time a girl LJBFs you, REFUSE! Tell her " I have too many friends as it is. I don't need another one" and walk away. Simple as that. What have you got to lose? She wasn't going to be there for you anyway. Tell her how it really is. Don't give her the pleasure of sheltering her conscience with that stupid phrase.

Good luck to all you guys out there.

 

[LIME!]

Seems to be burning bridges. Some of my LJBFs actually became friends and even visited me in the hospital. Some of them knew hot girls that are more compatible with me.

You messed up or were otherwise unattractive and she's letting you down nice. Don't let rejection get to you.

 

[backbreaker]

the original poster is 100% right...

If you needed to borrow $150 to pay a speeding ticket, I bet she isn't a "friend" then.

Who wouldn't come visit you in the hosipital?

What she is really saying is she would rather keep you around to keep her from being bored when all the men she is actually dating are busy, and when she needs a pickmeup you will be right there with your AFC ways to remind her of how beautiful she is

 

[On_the_Top]

Originally posted by backbreaker
the original poster is 100% right...

If you needed to borrow $150 to pay a speeding ticket, I bet she isn't a "friend" then.

Who wouldn't come visit you in the hosipital?

What she is really saying is she would rather keep you around to keep her from being bored when all the men she is actually dating are busy, and when she needs a pickmeup you will be right there with your AFC ways to remind her of how beautiful she is

Yep but thats why you keep her a friend, smile and cheese up in her face while your banging her best friend and tell her how good the ***** is, in essence play "their game." Pick up move on and go about your buisness but never burn those social connections cause you might need them in the future.

 

[backbreaker]

that never works. Reason is, because she doesn't really consider you as a real friend, she isn't going to let you hang out, let alone introduce you to her "hot friends"... I have seen in happen time and time again.

For her to introduce you to her friends, means she actually has to spend time with you, which is something she probably doesn't want to do, she would rather call you and tell you how great of a time her and her friends had.

If she wanted to spend time with you, she probably wouldn't want be your friend in the first place

 

[sstype]

Originally posted by On_the_Top
Yep but thats why you keep her a friend, smile and cheese up in her face while your banging her best friend and tell her how good the ***** is, in essence play "their game." Pick up move on and go about your buisness but never burn those social connections cause you might need them in the future.

good in theory, bad in practice.

she wont fyck you, her friends will pick up on that, so they wont fyck you. girls will put their social reputation ahead of sex anyday.

In fact, if a girl is infatuated with you (i.e. trophy boyfriend) then trust me, her friends will try to move in on you as well.

 

[manuva]

A good friend will bail you out of jail. A great friend will be sitting in the cell next to you saying, "Man, that was awesome."

 

[FunkyMillion]

I agree, the original poster is 100% right...

you might be burning bridges but if you think about it, you're not really burning any bridges because she just told you that she doesn't want any part of you - so it's her that is really burning that bridge not you. REMEMBER: it's not your fault, she's just not interested, MOVE THE FVCK ON!

In terms of burning bridges. If you analyze it, you might have lost a potential "friend," but there are still billions of people in the world to get to know. So don't sweat it man, friends come and go, remember that.

 

[Luveno]

Point being, just because someone tells you they're a "friend" doesn't mean it's true. Judge by actions, not by words.

Don't stick around a girl who is not passionately interested in you. She has already made the decision that you are not worthy of her body. All future advances or nice gestures to her will be construed as an attempt to get in her pants. She'll take it as flattery, use it to remind herself how beautiful she is(excellent point backbreaker), and continue to date other men who aren't suckers.

To those who don't yet understand ******** (the confusion jargon that women spout) I will elaborate on LJBF:

What she says is: "Let's just be friends"

What she means is: "I want to make clear the fact that I am not passionately interested in you, but I also don't want to break your precious little heart. You seem so delicate. So, to make myself feel better, I'm going to offer you friendship so that I don't feel like I'm abandoning you. However, I won't make any attempts in the future to build this friendship. Instead, I will just sit around while you make all the plans, and do all the talking. Sorry you couldn't sleep with me. Be happy we're friends"

Yes, it really is that convoluted! The acronym would be "IWTMCTFTIANPIIYBIADW..etc."...yeah, its crazy. The acronym itself would take 2 lines to write.

Again, to reiterate the IMPORTANT part:

Friendship, like attraction, isn't a choice! A friendship is a special bond you have with someone after knowing them for a long time. It's not something you can automatically decide you want with someone.

 

[penkitten]

Originally posted by Luveno
\\ Friendship, like attraction, isn't a choice! A friendship is a special bond you have with someone after knowing them for a long time. It's not something you can automatically decide you want with someone.

friendship is proven based on actions first then words second.
saying i will be there to a friend is an empty promise unless that friend shows up and is there.
sometimes in friendship, no words are needed.
true friends can sit with you for hours and not say a word and you still know the other cares.
true friends can tell by your face, or your eyes or the tone of your voice when something is wrong or they are needed.

experience in life will gain you this knowledge, not everyone can be your true friend even if they intend well.

think of it like this, familes are bonded together by blood, but dont always get along and sometimes its so hard to deal with some members. friends on the other hand, are family we have chosen to get along with and deal with. majority of the time, they are easier to deal with .