"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Wow i talked to my ex today and she told me pretty much told me that I'm the reason for her troubles. She said that she cheated on her ex with me (we got married). I don't know how to feel. she hates me and will take it out on my boy one day. I think its time to cut that turd loose. She tells me that the guy she was with is becoming a doctor(and I'm nothing). That stuff really hurts.When we got together she use to threaten suicide and beating up other girls. When I told her we really weren't a tight fit she would act sad.I have a boy with her and really think it would be in both of our best interests if I stopped talking to her and let her and my boy live out there destiny.She wanted everything perfect all the time.She is also young 22 so she thinks the world should be handed to her.Any advice on what I should say to her.P.S I cheated on her with one girl and she still won't get over that.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Jesus the f*ckbastard Christ, there is so much wrong with your post I think you should get a prize or something.

she cheated on her ex with me
Red Flag #1 - never and I mean NEVER get serious with a woman who leaves her man to be with you. It's just a preview of your own future, when she decides someone else is more exciting.

we got married
D'OH!

Marriage is rarely a good idea, especially with a cheating sl*t. Live and learn bro.

She tells me that the guy she was with is becoming a doctor(and I'm nothing)
Prepare yourself. She is already searching for your replacement. You think marriage and a kid makes a difference? Think again. These types of women have ZERO scruples and only care about what they are feeling. They make for terrible wives and mothers. The sooner she is out of your life the better. If you are smart YOU will be the one to cut it off, because I can guarantee she is figuring out how to leave you right now.

she use to threaten suicide and beating up other girls
This is a f*cking PARADE of red flags homey. Why exactly did you decide to spend the rest of your life with this chick? Please tell me the sex is incredible because I can't think of any other incentive (and even that one is not worth it)

She is also young 22
Yet another mistake. Nobody should be in a committed relationship, much less marriage before age 25, and even that is still young. What is up with all these kids settling down before they have a chance to live it up? :confused:

Any advice on what I should say to her
Two words. "It's over" I'd seriously start talking to a lawyer right now and getting the divorce rolling. Let her know that you are already moving the process along and that you are over her.

Just be prepared to have your ass handed to you in court. You are going to pay for these bad choices of yours for a long, long time.

That's a helluva bed you made for yourself kid.
 

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Wait a minute, if she threaten suicide and beat up girls you should be able to get your kid away from her. Personally I'd get the kid, sell my things, move my money into offshore account, and just leave the country.
 

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runner83 said:
I was going to give Razor Sharp a rep, but it said I must spread it around.

Another classic example of red flags being ignored.
I remember I tried so hard to get her to leave me alone but she talked really crazy. She doesn't do the suicide thing anymore. I just ended up stuck there is nothing I can do for my son I'll just say lesson learned.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Mantis Toboggan

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This guy is a troll. Don't bother, guys. He's the clone of "Chosen2" who got banned a week ago.

Good advice, Razor Sharp. I'm sure some non-trolls will take heed.
 
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