godofanxiety
Don Juan
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Warning: I'm in a pretty crazy state right now so please excuse the general confusion of this post.
Things in my relationship were finally on good track, with me getting over my AFCness and social anxiety, until HE decided to call her with nothing less than a proposal! They broke up a year ago, couldn't he find someone else to fawn over in the meantime? Still, this seemed to awake some pleasant memories about their relationship with her and it seems she isn't completely over him yet.
When asked if she still loves him she said she doesn't know, but she says she really loves me, and I can see that. Most of the signs of interest outlined in that archived thread are there, and we see each other really often, with her initiating meetings as much as me. She says she is happy with me and cries when I mention breakup. I didn't make threats about it, just discussed the possibility. But the emotions towards him are present.
One more thing, he is in a different country, so he's not a direct threat, I just feel uncomfortable with the situation. She says she wants children and marriage but is not ready yet. I also don't want to waste time with me if those wants are more serious than they appear.
The question: Is this normal? He was part of her life for two years, she is expected to feel something when he drops in her life again, or maybe not?
I'm interested to hear your views on this from both female and male angle.
Things in my relationship were finally on good track, with me getting over my AFCness and social anxiety, until HE decided to call her with nothing less than a proposal! They broke up a year ago, couldn't he find someone else to fawn over in the meantime? Still, this seemed to awake some pleasant memories about their relationship with her and it seems she isn't completely over him yet.
When asked if she still loves him she said she doesn't know, but she says she really loves me, and I can see that. Most of the signs of interest outlined in that archived thread are there, and we see each other really often, with her initiating meetings as much as me. She says she is happy with me and cries when I mention breakup. I didn't make threats about it, just discussed the possibility. But the emotions towards him are present.
One more thing, he is in a different country, so he's not a direct threat, I just feel uncomfortable with the situation. She says she wants children and marriage but is not ready yet. I also don't want to waste time with me if those wants are more serious than they appear.
The question: Is this normal? He was part of her life for two years, she is expected to feel something when he drops in her life again, or maybe not?
I'm interested to hear your views on this from both female and male angle.