"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Mr.Positive

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armstrong said:
I appreciate all the feedback and it's all good information. But I've tried pretty much all of it at some point. I've tried saying **** it and just going out there and trying to meet women.
I'm going to go out on a limb, and say meeting women, shouldn't be a goal right now.

You are a tough man, Armstrong. You just need to realize it. You've gone through the warzone of divorce..and yes, you survived!! Your neediness for this woman, you survived!

You are still waking up every morning, and eating breakfast, just like everyone else.

You've realized, through the hard way, that you can not place your happiness...in another person's hands. This case, your ex-wife.

You need a 'win' right now. Go conquer something. Something you've always wanted to do, in life. Go do it now.

Be it climbing a mountain, or exploring a foreign country. Everyone, has a big dream, that they want to do in this lifetime.

I suggest, you find yours. And ****ing destroy that dream into pieces by getting it done. While you can, you are a free man. Your life, is your's to live. I suggest you take this time to not waste it as a victim. Be the captain, of your life.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Mr.Positive said:
I'm going to go out on a limb, and say meeting women, shouldn't be a goal right now.

You are a tough man, Armstrong. You just need to realize it. You've gone through the warzone of divorce..and yes, you survived!! Your neediness for this woman, you survived!

You are still waking up every morning, and eating breakfast, just like everyone else.

You've realized, through the hard way, that you can not place your happiness...in another person's hands. This case, your ex-wife.

You need a 'win' right now. Go conquer something. Something you've always wanted to do, in life. Go do it now.

Be it climbing a mountain, or exploring a foreign country. Everyone, has a big dream, that they want to do in this lifetime.

I suggest, you find yours. And ****ing destroy that dream into pieces by getting it done. While you can, you are a free man. Your life, is your's to live. I suggest you take this time to not waste it as a victim. Be the captain, of your life.
This is good advice but I have to tell you I've gone down that road time and time again. I never had success with women before I met my ex. And much of those years was spent on the sidelines, ignoring women because I believed I should focus on other things instead. I understand what you say is for my best interest, but it's not something I want to do anymore. I want to grab this problem by the horns and conquer it.

And speaking of conquering things, that hasn't worked for me either as far as building confidence and translating that into romance goes. I've done many things in my life and just this past week had probably the biggest accomplishment of my life. But that doesn't make me feel any more confident with women.

Maybe the most frustrating thing for me is that I want this so bad. And I'm not even wishing for my soulmate at this point - just a date. This morning was a classic example of how things go for me. I walk into the photo lab at the pharmacy and there sits this gorgeous girl uploading her pictures into the computer. What do I say? Absolutely nothing because my mind went blank. Like it always does. I can't even bring myself to smile because I'm so frozen. I've tried everything. I've tried thinking positive, not giving a ****, handing out lollypops, you name it.

And when I do actually say something to a woman, it goes nowhere. There's never a spark with any of them. They never show interest. I start to wonder what's the point in even approaching. I know everyone who has spoken up is trying to help and I appreciate it. Believe me, I'm not trying to be Mr. Negative and ruin everybody's weekend lol. I'm simply hoping that by being honest maybe someone will see something that I don't.
 
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