Magnatolia
Don Juan
Hi,
I have trouble initiating a conversation with an attractive woman (actually I can't at all). Or even smiling at her.
Usually I end up just staring. I originally thought it was due to something that happened to me during primary school which shot my self-esteem. I've tried hypnosis and all of that stuff, but to no avail.
I now believe the problem is that I am afraid of not being able to converse with the woman. You know have a decent conversation.
The closest I have come to straight-out asking someone on a date was a colleague who I don't actually work with. We're on the same team but in different area's. I sent her an email asking if she'd like to go to lunch on a particular weekend (she said no because she was going to her partners parents place) but we started emailing each other and have become quite friendly. We were originally emailing each other on a one or two daily basis for a week, now every few days. But this is the first time I've actually had a really decent personal-type conversation/email. We had a meeting together (generally see her a couple of times a year) and I was completely at ease which is a complete first.
Anyway, after doing all this hypnosis and stuff I have smiled at a couple of women in the last couple of weeks. Nowhere near where I want to be though.
I have two questions. One: How do you actually get a women's attention without making it obvious? Basically I feel that I would gain a lot of confidence if I smiled at a lot of woman without actually initiating a conversation. Two: What recommendations do you have for getting over this fear? I've tried simply ignoring the fear but this doesn't work.
I have trouble initiating a conversation with an attractive woman (actually I can't at all). Or even smiling at her.
Usually I end up just staring. I originally thought it was due to something that happened to me during primary school which shot my self-esteem. I've tried hypnosis and all of that stuff, but to no avail.
I now believe the problem is that I am afraid of not being able to converse with the woman. You know have a decent conversation.
The closest I have come to straight-out asking someone on a date was a colleague who I don't actually work with. We're on the same team but in different area's. I sent her an email asking if she'd like to go to lunch on a particular weekend (she said no because she was going to her partners parents place) but we started emailing each other and have become quite friendly. We were originally emailing each other on a one or two daily basis for a week, now every few days. But this is the first time I've actually had a really decent personal-type conversation/email. We had a meeting together (generally see her a couple of times a year) and I was completely at ease which is a complete first.
Anyway, after doing all this hypnosis and stuff I have smiled at a couple of women in the last couple of weeks. Nowhere near where I want to be though.
I have two questions. One: How do you actually get a women's attention without making it obvious? Basically I feel that I would gain a lot of confidence if I smiled at a lot of woman without actually initiating a conversation. Two: What recommendations do you have for getting over this fear? I've tried simply ignoring the fear but this doesn't work.