"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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trouble cutting fat

speakeasy

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I'm 5'8" and 178lbs. I'm not fat and nobody that sees me would think I'm fat. However, I do have a lot of "jelly belly" around my waste that I can't seem to shed. I do lots of cardio work like uphill mountain biking, I just scaled a 10,000ft mountain last weekend, I do martial arts a few times a week. I think I do plenty calorie burning excercise. However, I have trouble getting ride of this stubborn fat around my belly and waist. When I'm standing up straight, it's not noticable, but when sitting down, it causes rolls to bunch up. I'll never have a six pack or good muscle definition until I get rid of it. But it seems so stubborn I don't know what to do. Oddly, I have almost no body fat below my waste. I can barely pinch up any fat on my legs, it's as if all the fat in my body isn't evenly distributed, it just goes straight to my mid section.

Is there anything I can do? I really want the "beach body" look, but maybe it's not in my genes.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Throttle

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well, you've talked a lot about what you do for activity, but not what you eat. diagnosing your problem is easy, then. proper diet is not just for the fat or inactive.

the distribution of body fat on your body is genetic, and also related to gender -- guys tend to put it onto the belly first & take it off there last.

the cliche 'abs are made in the kitchen' applies here.
 

mrRuckus

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You probably have a anterior pelvic tilt that makes you look like you have a gut.

And everyone's stomach bunches up like that when they sit.
 

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buy the book ultimatediet 2 by lyle mcdonald and do loads of excersise on day 3 .... everyone has places were the fat comes off last and on day 3 of thisdiet is the day when the blood runs to these places i would elaborate more but my arm is broken and itsall sciency the book explains it better then i can if uracheapskateand dont want to buy it =( this is the link to a pdf version of it http://members.tripod.com/ns_powerlifting/UD2.pdf
 

speakeasy

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Okay, so maybe diet is a large part of it, but I don't eat cheeseburgers and pizza every night. I don't have the healthiest diet in the world either, probably somewhere in the middle. I've heard that you shouldn't eat after 9:00pm, but what if you get hungry after that, what are some late night foods that are safe to eat?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Throttle

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if you're not going to log your diet & prepare to make significant changes, you're going to just have to live with your body the way it looks.

if/when you're ready for that, get back to us.
 

eaturmcts

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Try to reduce carbohydrates at night, stick to proteins, fats, and green veggies.
 
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