...is number closing not a real sign of interest?
I remember the days of junior high. "Does she like me? Go ask her friend if she likes me? No, don't tell her I want to know! Tell her your friend wants to know! "
Young girls and guys scrambling around the courtyard, trying to find out guys' last names, guys trying to find out if she's got a boyfriend, where her locker is...
As we get older, we learn to discern from body language, voice pitch and other factors to help us determine if we are attractive to someone else.
My experience tells me that those that are so focused on getting a girls phone number are sometimes missing out on the opportunity to get to know the girl right then and there.
In this situation, you've got 10 people and a girl with a boyfriend gives her number out to 2 different guys.
There's nothing for either of the two guys to worry about. She has a bf. If either of the two guys steal her away from the "borefriend", they may look forward to someone stealing her away from them. The problem is likely not with the "borefriend", but the girl. She hasn't decided what she wants yet.
Maybe I'm old school, but I don't think this girl should be giving out her number to any guy while partying. It's disrespectful to the bf, whoever he is.
Over the past two weeks, I've gotten 8 phone numbers. Of the 6 I called, I've only spoken to 2. One had no desire to meet me, the other was getting ready for school to start and said she had a class on Tuesday nights so couldn't go.
So, obviously, NO - a phone number is not a sign of high interest level. It's just a number.
Now, why did this girl who doesn't want to date me give me her phone number? Several possible reasons.
1. She knew she wasn't leaving the bar for another 2 hours and didn't want things to be uncomfortable.
2. She knows I'm more popular than her. She doesn't want me to be calling her a b*tch or a tease or anything, so she just gives up the number and avoids answering the phone unless she recognizes who the caller is.
3. She is drunk and doesn't care at the moment who has her number. A number isn't a promise of anything.
4. Because you told her to.
5. She might really like you when she gave it to you, but after you got it, she saw you talk to several other girls and get their numbers as well. She didn't like it.
Is she a "Ho" ?
No. She's just a girl who gave you a phone number. Why? Because she knows some of your friends and wants to hang out either with you or all of you.
