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TRIGGER HAPPY NUMBER CLOSING , is it the right/best way ?

KneghtRyder

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I will ask for the number if I get at least some interest , eye contact or another form. I don't ask for number if she doesn't give indications or I'm not super interested in her.

OUTSIDE OF those cases where there is no interest, ARE we being too trigger happy with the MOTTO "Always be number closing" or IS THIS THE RIGHT WAYS TO DO IT ?

My Reasooning In favor is:

0) YOU NEVER 100% KNOW WHO IS EXACTLY INTERESTED. The one what you think maybe interested , might end up not giving you her number and the girl that you think might not be so interested, might end up giving you her number.

1) gets right to the point of saying " ARE you romantically interested in me ? " ..make her show it by going to her weak side and performing some action...giving your her number.

2) Shows that you are on the Look out for a girlfriend. that you are man enough to not hide your testosterone and that you want a girlfriend. that you are confident to ask. plus you lose nothing by asking for it. ( I show an opposing view below)

HERE is my thinking in against trigger-happy ALways Be Number CLosing :

0) It might cause unnecessary rejection. Requires alot of inner confidence to refuel every time you hit a rejection and of course its great for developing thick-skinnedness for rejections but by being smart enough to see who is interesting and who is not might be a more effective way.

1)What happens if your not super attracted to her, you might not be interested in her number.

2)2) You can tell if shes really interested and be smart with asking so you don't get rejection too much., Getting too many unncessary rejections might not be too good for your self-confidence.

SO TELL ME,

IS it Right to ALWAYS BE NUMBER CLOSING or do so when you are 90 % sure of success ?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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vorbis

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the BIGGEST problem by far with fast number closing is high flakage when trying to set something up. I find girls will give you their real number and be interested if you close them quickly. However, when you make contact a few days later, there wasn't enough rapport built for that to last. She's now not so sure and bang you have a flake!
 

KneghtRyder

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maybe the title is weird...but I was asking if I was the only one or anyone do this;

get right to the point and ask for the number ; and that is the main approach strategy. ( of course with a short convo of 1-2 mints)
 
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