"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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tried gaming a fashion model, negged, made her qualify, still nothing. tips?

big weezy

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i was in starbucks just now and sat next to a hot tall brunette, i went for an indirect opener asking her how to use the wifi then made a joke about how her nail polish matched her apple mac cover and did she have a different one for every day/colour. she laughed but then put her headphones back in. couple mins later i asked her about her mac and whether she recommended if i'd get one, turns out she buys everything apple related so i made a joke that she probably lines up camping out oustide for every new apple release. laughed again.

asked where she was from, asked her what she was doing here, turns out she just finished school and is on a year off trying out to be a model to see if she gets anywhere, just signed up to an agency yesterday. i tried my best to DHV, neg, made her qualify herself ('so what qualities would you say you have that set you apart from other models and pretty faces in this area and makes you stand out from the crowd?') she just answered talking about her looks again, i sensed no attraction at all. my body language wasn't right, i was leaning in too much cos i couldnt hear, came across eager, i kept talking and talking not letting the silence occur as she kept attempting to put her earphones back in (didn't know she wanted to skype her family) after a while i said 'i'll let u get back to what you were doing' she goes 'sorry i just need to skype my family cos they were expecting me'

i tried everything to DHV myself, saying i travelled a lot spoke lots of languages, was doing well for myself (but not in a qualifying manner) she didn't ask me any questions. i tried talking about her profession, about the insecurity trying to build an emotional connection, but nothing.. talked about spirituality.. it just seemed like im this random dude talking to her cos i want attention. i left it there, as she packed up i said 'so is your family here?' she misheard and said 'yah i need to go home and skype them it's too noisy here' (she coulda meant i was disturbing her..) i didnt bother attempting a no. close i got no IL from her at all, i said 'i might see you around' she goes 'yah if you come to this starbucks i'll see you again'

she was very polite friendly courteous etc, but just not interested. i guess pick ups can just be like that some time?

no matter what you do, sometimes they're just not interested..
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Sometimes, girls, especially models just aren't that into you. This one did not find you attractive. That trying to impress thing you did was little to no help that was for you. I just read her mind. Here's what it said.

Thank you big weezy, but your princess is in another castle! :(

Advance to world 2.

Case closed.
 

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Game is about making things smooth and avoid screwing up things, it cannot create attraction without the right look behind.

Also keep in mind not all girls are receptive,in the right mood or single.
A girl that would be interested in you would be totally uninterested and cold the day before an exam for example only to return receptive the day after.
 

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big weezy said:
i was in starbucks just now and sat next to a hot tall brunette, i went for an indirect opener asking her how to use the wifi then made a joke about how her nail polish matched her apple mac cover and did she have a different one for every day/colour. she laughed but then put her headphones back in. couple mins later i asked her about her mac and whether she recommended if i'd get one, turns out she buys everything apple related so i made a joke that she probably lines up camping out oustide for every new apple release. laughed again.

asked where she was from, asked her what she was doing here, turns out she just finished school and is on a year off trying out to be a model to see if she gets anywhere, just signed up to an agency yesterday. i tried my best to DHV, neg, made her qualify herself ('so what qualities would you say you have that set you apart from other models and pretty faces in this area and makes you stand out from the crowd?') she just answered talking about her looks again, i sensed no attraction at all. my body language wasn't right, i was leaning in too much cos i couldnt hear, came across eager, i kept talking and talking not letting the silence occur as she kept attempting to put her earphones back in (didn't know she wanted to skype her family) after a while i said 'i'll let u get back to what you were doing' she goes 'sorry i just need to skype my family cos they were expecting me'

i tried everything to DHV myself, saying i travelled a lot spoke lots of languages, was doing well for myself (but not in a qualifying manner) she didn't ask me any questions. i tried talking about her profession, about the insecurity trying to build an emotional connection, but nothing.. talked about spirituality.. it just seemed like im this random dude talking to her cos i want attention. i left it there, as she packed up i said 'so is your family here?' she misheard and said 'yah i need to go home and skype them it's too noisy here' (she coulda meant i was disturbing her..) i didnt bother attempting a no. close i got no IL from her at all, i said 'i might see you around' she goes 'yah if you come to this starbucks i'll see you again'

she was very polite friendly courteous etc, but just not interested. i guess pick ups can just be like that some time?

no matter what you do, sometimes they're just not interested..
You're definitely sensible and you seem to have a good understanding about what's happening in an interaction between you and another person, which in opinion is a good thing because you know where it's a good idea to act (number close) and when it might not be such a good idea (as in above case).
In my experience, I don't think there's anything you can do when a girl isn't showing that kind of interest. There could be a lot of reasons for it, none having to do with you - but what's important is to recognize that they are not interested and move on, which you did so good for you. The way you implemented some of those pua tactics shows you got some skill so it should be a matter of time before you're banging hot models like a rock star.

Good luck player and all the best to you with women.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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You probably just picked the wrong time with her, and it sounds like she just wasn't attracted. 1 out of every 4 models statistically will not be attracted to you. It's a proven fact. Other then that what you were doing sounded pretty good (maybe except for the bringing up insecurities thing??? that may be taken as reaching to make a connection and it can make people uncomfortable when that happens (ignoring her boundaries & an obvious attempt to bring things to another level).
 

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Weezy:

You did pretty good with your approach and attempt. However, for attraction to occur, it has to be a two way street.

She didn't give you one sign that she was interested after you engaged her in conversation.

But you continued to press, which likely probably annoyed her since she wasn't interested.

Learn to read the situation a bit better and keep working; its a journey and your well on your way.






PIMP
 

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nismo-4 said:
Sometimes, girls, especially models just aren't that into you. This one did not find you attractive. That trying to impress thing you did was little to no help that was for you. I just read her mind. Here's what it said.

Thank you big weezy, but your princess is in another castle! :(

Advance to world 2.

Case closed.
lol ... yes cute females tend to judge you very quickly based on your looks cause looks is 99% of value to them when you approach.. if she does not find you attractive you are done before you start.. yup.. so most men aim lower and lower until they get something.. usually a 400lbs something..
 
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