"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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tried bootcamp -- zero progress. HELP!

wiggadude

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I'm at the approach stage in the bootcamp. First of all, I have very little trouble talking to strangers, and I have pretty high confidence.

I already talk to girls everywhere, so this is nothing new for me.

Trouble is, I can't find any girls I'm actually *attracted* to when I'm out in public. There will be 1 in 500 approximately. From the rest, I don't even want their number.

What to do? Frustrated.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

bobbob

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That's just how it is in a lot of cities. Guess what ... they're at school, or at work. Simple as that.
 

Derek Flint

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Bars, Pubs, Clubs, Lounges etc...are full of hot women.

I don't know where you live, but most cities/towns have them.
 

Slickster

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Double check your sexual orientation cuz I can't go an hour without seeing a chick I'm attracted to. :)
 

Donald Kaufman

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Sometimes when people say they can't find anyone they're attracted to they seem to actually mean anyone who's worth the effort. This is often incredibly dependent on an immediately apparent perception of physical beauty.

You walk into a room and look around. There are a bunch of people standing around. You see some women that don't look bad but when you think of walking over AND starting a conversation AND working in a little kino AND dealing with a couple tests she has prepared and THEN coming up with an excuse to leave for a while THEN wander around the bar looking for other women to chat up THEN ... she's not that attractive.

Very few women are really worth all that based soley on their ability to look good.

The other factor is often that someone can be too focused on the end result. If I'm going to be talking to that person and go through all that hassle I want to know up front that she is worth it.

When you actually go up and talk to someone they can quickly become more or less attractive. Have you ever talked to a ten and even if she seems to be trying to be friendly is unbearable? They become ugly fast. Have you ever seen a girl and not noticed anything special but when you speak to her will have a smile or attitude that moves her up at least 3 ratings in almost no time? If you have never encountered either of these situations your experience is lacking or you're so shallow you might as well take a piture of a girl you find attractive, paste it on a blow up doll and have a perfect relationship.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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smooth666

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Originally posted by wiggadude
I'm at the approach stage in the bootcamp. First of all, I have very little trouble talking to strangers, and I have pretty high confidence.

I already talk to girls everywhere, so this is nothing new for me.

Trouble is, I can't find any girls I'm actually *attracted* to when I'm out in public. There will be 1 in 500 approximately. From the rest, I don't even want their number.

What to do? Frustrated.
Where do you live?
 

wiggadude

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Re: Re: tried bootcamp -- zero progress. HELP!

Bay Area. Actually, I looked some more. I now do see attractive women, but still only about 2 per day.

Originally posted by smooth666
Where do you live?
 
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