"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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tried bootcamp -- zero progress. HELP!

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wiggadude

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I'm at the approach stage in the bootcamp. First of all, I have very little trouble talking to strangers, and I have pretty high confidence.

I already talk to girls everywhere, so this is nothing new for me.

Trouble is, I can't find any girls I'm actually *attracted* to when I'm out in public. There will be 1 in 500 approximately. From the rest, I don't even want their number.

What to do? Frustrated.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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bobbob

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That's just how it is in a lot of cities. Guess what ... they're at school, or at work. Simple as that.
 
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Derek Flint

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Bars, Pubs, Clubs, Lounges etc...are full of hot women.

I don't know where you live, but most cities/towns have them.
 
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Double check your sexual orientation cuz I can't go an hour without seeing a chick I'm attracted to. :)
 
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Donald Kaufman

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Sometimes when people say they can't find anyone they're attracted to they seem to actually mean anyone who's worth the effort. This is often incredibly dependent on an immediately apparent perception of physical beauty.

You walk into a room and look around. There are a bunch of people standing around. You see some women that don't look bad but when you think of walking over AND starting a conversation AND working in a little kino AND dealing with a couple tests she has prepared and THEN coming up with an excuse to leave for a while THEN wander around the bar looking for other women to chat up THEN ... she's not that attractive.

Very few women are really worth all that based soley on their ability to look good.

The other factor is often that someone can be too focused on the end result. If I'm going to be talking to that person and go through all that hassle I want to know up front that she is worth it.

When you actually go up and talk to someone they can quickly become more or less attractive. Have you ever talked to a ten and even if she seems to be trying to be friendly is unbearable? They become ugly fast. Have you ever seen a girl and not noticed anything special but when you speak to her will have a smile or attitude that moves her up at least 3 ratings in almost no time? If you have never encountered either of these situations your experience is lacking or you're so shallow you might as well take a piture of a girl you find attractive, paste it on a blow up doll and have a perfect relationship.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Originally posted by wiggadude
I'm at the approach stage in the bootcamp. First of all, I have very little trouble talking to strangers, and I have pretty high confidence.

I already talk to girls everywhere, so this is nothing new for me.

Trouble is, I can't find any girls I'm actually *attracted* to when I'm out in public. There will be 1 in 500 approximately. From the rest, I don't even want their number.

What to do? Frustrated.
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Where do you live?
 
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Re: Re: tried bootcamp -- zero progress. HELP!

Bay Area. Actually, I looked some more. I now do see attractive women, but still only about 2 per day.

Originally posted by smooth666
Where do you live?
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