tricky situation with bartender!

[trevor2003]

There is this chick in my marketing class, i'd say she is an 8.5/10. Anyways on Thursday night she was flirting with me in class. She showed a lot of interest and I could tell that she liked me. We ended up talking for like 15 minutes during the break between class.

She told me that she is a bartender at one of the dance clubs downtown. She said that she was going down with her friends on Friday night and that she was working on Saturday night! As we were leaving class she gave me a bunch of passes which are good for free cover and a free drink, and she told me I should come down to the club on the weekend.

I didn't make it down last night cuz I was drinking with my friends and none of them wanted to goto a dance club.

So i'm wondering whether its a good idea to go there by myself tonight? I'll stop by around 10:30-11:00 when there won't be many people there, go in and get my free beer, talk to her for a bit, get her phone # and leave.

I'd like to get one of my buddies to go with me as a wingman, but I doubt anyone will be up for it. And I don't want to get drunk 2 nights in a row, I just want 1 beer.

SOOOOOOO......Do you think it would look bad to just show up at a dance club alone on a Saturday night just to talk to the bartender???

 

[ManOMan]

Ive known many bartender girls who just give out a bunch of free passes , so you and your friends can go there , order drinks from her and tip her all night.

Its a type of marketing bartenders use to draw in people and tips.

 

[trevor2003]

i'll be pissed if i find out she was only nice to me so i would go down with my friends so she could get more tips...........although it wouldn't suprise me, she seems like the type of girl who could play tricks like that

 

[Big Pappy]

First, I wouldn't go by yourself, unless you can walk into a room and command attention. Lady bartenders are just famous for getting you in there for the sole purpose of tipping her. Here's the thing- she gave you multiple passes. If you were to go and only have one drink, the only money you spent was on the tip. She'll likely think your cheap or dead broke, neither of which is endearing. If it's an open-ended pass(you can use whenever you want) just hold onto it, and go next weekend. Otherwise, give them back to her, tell her you can't make it.

A bartender at a dance club is going to be busting a**. She won't have time to entertain you, or be entertained. She will appreciate seeing you, because you've shown interest and as someone she knows, you're likely to tip more. You're not likely to get too many dates with this one. She's going to be the girl that you just hook up with through proper timing. (That is a bold generalization based on my experience with multiple lady bartenders. As a bouncer, I get to meet a lot of them)

Solution: only go there if it's somewhere that you would normally like to go if this girl were not there.

Just my opinion - I could be wrong.

 

[ManOMan]

Trevor,

Dont worry about it, the only reason I know this is because it happened to me

Additionally, dance clubs are VERY busy on the weekends , so its a terrible time to try and chat up a bartender.

On the flipside, if she knows you, what you do is tip well (with friends) say like $10, $20, and expect your next few drinks to be free or extra potent

there is a code with experienced bartenders, big tips = free drinks

 

[trevor2003]

Originally posted by Big Pappy
If you were to go and only have one drink, the only money you spent was on the tip. She'll likely think your cheap or dead broke, neither of which is endearing. If it's an open-ended pass(you can use whenever you want) just hold onto it, and go next weekend. Otherwise, give them back to her, tell her you can't make it.

man, i'm so broke it's not even funny! i'm the definition of a "poor student"...........and the passes she gave me are only good for tonioght!

Originally posted by Big Pappy
A bartender at a dance club is going to be busting a**. She won't have time to entertain you, or be entertained. She will appreciate seeing you, because you've shown interest and as someone she knows, you're likely to tip more. You're not likely to get too many dates with this one. She's going to be the girl that you just hook up with through proper timing.

Yeah, she probally will be too busy tonight. Apparently this is customer appreciation night. But nobody goes to clubs before 12:00 anyways. Thats why I thought I could go down earlier.
I doubt I would get many dates with her anyways, she has 2 jobs and goes to school and she seems like the type of girl who already has dozens of guys chasing her. I'm just looking for a ONS or F-Buddies though. And I definately agree with you on the "proper timing" comment. It'll happen soon enough if she really has interest!

Originally posted by Big Pappy
Solution: only go there if it's somewhere that you would normally like to go if this girl were not there.

I hate dance clubs! And I don't want to get drunk again tonight, so I decided NOT to go. I'll see her some other time in school!