"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Tricky situation I'm in, any thoughts ?

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So I met this girl a week ago last Thursday. She's a freshman. Things are complicated, and I need all your opinions on how to work it.

9/1 i met her, we hung out for a bit. Labor day we hung out all day, canoeing, ping pong, dinner, and made out in my room. Catch was she had a b/f of 3 yrs but said she wanted to break up w/ him. She finally broke up w/ him yesterday. We've made out a little after that, but I'm in a funny situation.

Thing is, I dont know how to approach this. Obviously she's sad about breaking up after 3 yrs, and I dont know how quickly she wants to get started w/ anthing. I'm not saying i def. want a relationship, but even a **** buddy would be nice........but im afraid any action I take will make her believe i just want a relationship........which I bet she probably doesn't.

She's a huge partier now, since she's a freshman, and I dont want her to meet another guy and loose out on a **** buddy, but yet I dont want to cramp her space and make her think i 'really like her' and i want a g/f.

Anyone know how to approach this situation ?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Play it cool. Sheesh. You realize you've already associated yourself with a break-up, do something fun before you try to start anything serious. Better yet, don't take anything serious, until you know you're ready.
 
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I dont plan on anything serious bro. Im just treading on thin water b/c of her 'status' . There's sexual tension between us, but I have to be careful, b/c she's in a difficult state right now.
 
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Contrary to popular belief, now is the time to be her friend. When she wants to be your girlfriend, if she wants to be your girlfriend, she'll let you know it.
 
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forget I even asked......I only get morons answering my post.......I'm not freaking looking for a g/f........Just a freakin' **** buddy, if it turns out to be anything more, so be it........sheesh....

Mods just delete this, forget I even asked.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by Iamnotacrook
Contrary to popular belief, now is the time to be her friend. When she wants to be your girlfriend, if she wants to be your girlfriend, she'll let you know it.
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This advice is stupid. Please do not follow it.

Right - you have to be FUN. It's simple. You need to be a FUN guy. She's probably glad to have escaped a three year LTR - which probably got boring - so be the opposite of boring. Which is, err, fun. Fun in a DJ way - exciting in a manly way. You know what I mean.

Chances are she wanted to split up with him for a while but just needed that final push.

She'll be well open to be fvcked in a non-committal way - she can be carefree again. Take advantage of this fact:D.

And remember, keep on sarging! If she doesn't like it, who cares? You're not her boyfriend.

(And don't give up just because idiots are giving you advice thats crap. Just ignore them)
 
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Hmm, never did me any harm. All this "Waaaaah, I wanna **** buddy, waaaah" just shows that you're a piece of trash. Buy a hooker if that's what you want, unless the girl is slutty enough to **** you even if she knows that's all you're looking for. Liars get popped, just remember that.
 
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