"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Tricky ex crush

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Greetings and salutations my friends,

Got a quick one that i could use some advice on because i seem to be stuck.

Theres a girl i recently friended on facebook who i have seen in 5 years, we did have a thing but the AFC in me ruined it long ago, Ive reformed but it still haunts me, shes about a 8.5-9 and would defs like to get to re-know her.

How should i approach this? without seeming like a stalker, also she has a boyfriend and has had for like 2-3 years. Seems like a lost cause i know but one wants what one apparently cant have

in help is appreciated.

regards,
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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quote: Theres a girl i recently friended on facebook who i have seen in 5 years, we did have a thing but the AFC in me ruined it long ago,

Do you mean you haveN'T seen in 5 yrs?

Also what makes her a "tricky ex crush"? Is she a part time magician?

C'mon, dont waste our time with foggy posts.

As far as the big complicated solution: say "Hi Jane Doe, long time no see. Always wondered how you were doing. Lets grab a coffee or a drink somewhere, and catch up. I can use a few good laughs, how bout you?"
 

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Doc Freezy said:
Greetings and salutations my friends,

Got a quick one that i could use some advice on because i seem to be stuck.

Theres a girl i recently friended on facebook who i have seen in 5 years, we did have a thing but the AFC in me ruined it long ago, Ive reformed but it still haunts me, shes about a 8.5-9 and would defs like to get to re-know her.

How should i approach this? without seeming like a stalker, also she has a boyfriend and has had for like 2-3 years. Seems like a lost cause i know but one wants what one apparently cant have

in help is appreciated.

regards,


Wait, why do you want to talk to this girl? That's the first question you have to ask yourself.

Are you trying to use her to prove that you've reformed? And you're saying that she has a boyfriend and has been in that relationship for years.

What are you aiming for?
It seems like you are setting yourself up for a heap of trouble and a world of hurt.

If you are truly reformed, then let it slide. You have more to lose than to gain from this. And in proving (through her) that you are reformed, you might actually slip back to what you once were.

Is it worth that much to you?
 

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There are a couple of problems with this.

Firstly, she will remember you as an AFC and it will be very hard to lose that image she already has of you.

Also, if you used to know this girl when you were an AFC, then those feelings could be triggered in you again and you will revert to chump behavior.


If SHE was the one trying to contact you after all these years then you may stand a chance. But the fact that you're obviously still thinking about her shows that this could turn into a oneitis situation if you're not careful.

Part of reforming from an AFC is knowing when to let it go, even if it hurts your ego.
 

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not intentionally foggy, it was late at night and i was sleepy. Which is the reason for the typo's.

I havent been an AFC for 3 years, and because of that i can tell the indicators of an AFC. So ill definitely not regress back to that.

Yeah im assuming shaking the image of an AFC will be the hardest, however im a lot more muscular and actually have style now, hopefully sub consciously this will shift her opinion.

Im thinking an avenue of non-threating friend, but with clandestine ulterior motives.

thoughts..?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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