"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Triangular Gazing

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Hey,

A question about a female friend I have,

now i'm a rAFC but on the path to improvement through inner game and developing myself, so i try and place little importance on any one girl, or any interaction.

However i noticed we were sat talking for a few hours in my car the other day, and she kept looking at each of my eyes left to right, then down to my lips, occasionally looking down at my body.

It's happened on a few occasions since.

Then I remembered Shezz's excellent posts about this being a pre kiss close technique for him and wondered if it was a strong IOI or just her being normal inquisative chic?

TIA
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The System of Indicators of Interest (IOIs)

-> Good, you got a IOI, I won't beat it to death.
-> Now, look for another.
-> See it?

-Yes
-> Good, that validates interest that much more.
-> Look for another
-> Act when the validation is "secure", or when the circumstances permit (you know goddamn well she won't resist, or it's part of the method)

-No
-> Create another IOI.
 

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Kiss Her

This is a good, on-topic first post. Kiss her next time, especially if she leans in. Even if she doesn't pull her in gently by the back of the head and kiss her. If she resists, so what, try it again later.


sonus said:
Hey,

A question about a female friend I have,

now i'm a rAFC but on the path to improvement through inner game and developing myself, so i try and place little importance on any one girl, or any interaction.

However i noticed we were sat talking for a few hours in my car the other day, and she kept looking at each of my eyes left to right, then down to my lips, occasionally looking down at my body.

It's happened on a few occasions since.

Then I remembered Shezz's excellent posts about this being a pre kiss close technique for him and wondered if it was a strong IOI or just her being normal inquisative chic?

TIA
 

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Thanks guys,

Yes she has been showing multiple other IOI's but then again she is seeing someone else, although he has no clue and is a total supplicating afc, by her admission he doesn't do it for her.

I think it's a case of there being enough IOI's (her initiating Kino, ddb, relationship/sex talk, asking really searching q's about my sexual history/names of exes) and there is a lot of tension sometimes.

I actually think it's an inner game issue with me, I'm relying on her to provide conclusive proof. It's never going to happen I just need to bust by comfort zone and create/assume attraction.

But I was just wondering in a DavidD style whether this type of gazing was a natural mechanism, and maybe if reciprocated would set the context for an easier close.

I'll try it!
 

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Strange, I've never had a woman look at me like that.
A lot of other IOI's, but this is not one I've ever noticed before.

Still, I don't necessarily go for visual confirmation, I prefer to think of it as a feeling that I get at a certain point.
For example, sometimes girls can sit still and do absolutely nothing, except maybe look at you...
You can still feel that they're hot and horney inside and would really like to do something with you, just from this vibe they're giving off.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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sounds like an IOI alright. Give her the same eye-play hehe
 
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