"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hey,

A question about a female friend I have,

now i'm a rAFC but on the path to improvement through inner game and developing myself, so i try and place little importance on any one girl, or any interaction.

However i noticed we were sat talking for a few hours in my car the other day, and she kept looking at each of my eyes left to right, then down to my lips, occasionally looking down at my body.

It's happened on a few occasions since.

Then I remembered Shezz's excellent posts about this being a pre kiss close technique for him and wondered if it was a strong IOI or just her being normal inquisative chic?

TIA
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The System of Indicators of Interest (IOIs)

-> Good, you got a IOI, I won't beat it to death.
-> Now, look for another.
-> See it?

-Yes
-> Good, that validates interest that much more.
-> Look for another
-> Act when the validation is "secure", or when the circumstances permit (you know goddamn well she won't resist, or it's part of the method)

-No
-> Create another IOI.
 

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Kiss Her

This is a good, on-topic first post. Kiss her next time, especially if she leans in. Even if she doesn't pull her in gently by the back of the head and kiss her. If she resists, so what, try it again later.


sonus said:
Hey,

A question about a female friend I have,

now i'm a rAFC but on the path to improvement through inner game and developing myself, so i try and place little importance on any one girl, or any interaction.

However i noticed we were sat talking for a few hours in my car the other day, and she kept looking at each of my eyes left to right, then down to my lips, occasionally looking down at my body.

It's happened on a few occasions since.

Then I remembered Shezz's excellent posts about this being a pre kiss close technique for him and wondered if it was a strong IOI or just her being normal inquisative chic?

TIA
 

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Thanks guys,

Yes she has been showing multiple other IOI's but then again she is seeing someone else, although he has no clue and is a total supplicating afc, by her admission he doesn't do it for her.

I think it's a case of there being enough IOI's (her initiating Kino, ddb, relationship/sex talk, asking really searching q's about my sexual history/names of exes) and there is a lot of tension sometimes.

I actually think it's an inner game issue with me, I'm relying on her to provide conclusive proof. It's never going to happen I just need to bust by comfort zone and create/assume attraction.

But I was just wondering in a DavidD style whether this type of gazing was a natural mechanism, and maybe if reciprocated would set the context for an easier close.

I'll try it!
 

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Strange, I've never had a woman look at me like that.
A lot of other IOI's, but this is not one I've ever noticed before.

Still, I don't necessarily go for visual confirmation, I prefer to think of it as a feeling that I get at a certain point.
For example, sometimes girls can sit still and do absolutely nothing, except maybe look at you...
You can still feel that they're hot and horney inside and would really like to do something with you, just from this vibe they're giving off.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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sounds like an IOI alright. Give her the same eye-play hehe
 
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