Trendsetter's 31 Day Stylelife Challenge.

[Trendsetter]

Why I am doing it: To improve my overall game, I'm not trying to hook-up because I have a girlfriend but I see some benefits in just improving my overall communication skills with people.

Me posting about my daily progress will hopefully push me to do all the challenges. I don't have all the resources, like the tapes, and all that information because I 'rapidshared' the daily tasks, so all I'm doing is the daily tasks.

Make small talk with 5 strangers today- Completed

1.) While I was waiting in line at Jamba Juice, there was a chick behind me and I asked her for a suggestion on what kind of drink to get.

Me: Hey Let me ask ask you a question, I always get the same flavor jamba juice and I wanna try something different, what would you suggest.

Her: Lol, I get the same flavor all the time, um, try the citrus squeeze, or bla bla bla.

we made small talk about her graduating next summer and then I got my drink, before I ordered, I said something like "I'm trusting you that this is a good choice" I tasted it before I left and she asked if it was a good choice, I said yes, thanked her and was on my way.

2, 3.) I dunno if this counted or not but on the second day of class I made small talk with 2 people in my group that I havent talked to yet. (It prolly shouldn't count because I didn't quite leave my confort zone to do it. I basically asked them how their weekend was and they asked me the same and that was pretty much the gist of it.

4.) I have a shirt on that has an arrow pointing to my face that says "man, and an arrow pointing to my crotch that says "legend" so I'm waiting for a buddy of mine outside the library and ask some random chick...

Me: Hi, can I ask you a question (I need to learn not to ask)

Her: Yeah, what's up

Me: I got into an argument with my sister (lie) about htis shirt I have on and she said it's trashy, what do you think about it.

Her: lol, no I think it's a nice shirt

Me: So you don't think it's in bad taste or anything

Her: No, I think it's fine

Me: Ok, thanks, that's all I wanted to know.

5.) I was walking with my buddy after school to my car and I needed to make an approach before I went home so this asian chick was behind me and I stopped her and asked her a question

Me: Hey, can I ask you a question (I did it again, lol)

Her: Ok?

Me: Ok, I'm gonna be quick because I need to get back to my friend but me and him were debating about whether I should talk to my ex girlfriends best friend. See I broke up with my g/f but her best friend has been coming on to me lately and wants me to talk to her, what should I do

Her: Yeah, u shouldn't talk to her best friend because that's going to be a lot of drama (begins to walk back in her original direction)

Me: Ok thanks for the adivce.


Ok so there were my approaches. If you guys have any constructive criticism of my approaches or what I should do to hit my sticking points, it would be greatly appreciated.

I didn't really try to escalate any of the conversations at all but if you have any advice about transitioning into the attraction stage, let me know, thanks.

 

[Lust]

Mate!

I was doing this not long ago.

This is THE BEST THING to help get over approach anxiety and get a good grasp of the Game.

Complete this, and you'll be WAY beyond a lot of members on this board.

One thing on the small talk, you aren't suppose to be trying to open, with your typical opinion opener, this is just all natural, out of the blue, friendly small talk.

Listen to the audio files again to get an idea,

Apart from that, keep it up! Complete this on time and you'll be doing a lot better than I did!

 

[Trendsetter]

Thanks for the heads up Lust. Unfortunately when I got a hold of the bootcamp, some of the stuff was apparently purposely messed up so people that pirated the software were not able to get ALL of the assignment so I only have the main part, I don't have access to any of the audiofiles or the pdf's. If you still have them and don't mind im'ing me them, Id appreciate it.

Anyways, I think I made small talk with about 20 people the past 4 days, just not able to post. Went out on Friday and Saturday which boosted my numbers, had a hard time figuring out peoples eye color at night in the club but here are five I can remember off the top of my head.



TASK 6: Completed

Go out and make small talk with five more strangers today.

But we’re going to add one piece to the exercise:

This time, be sure that you make EYE CONTACT with the person.

In fact, when you report back on your experiences in the Forums, write down the EYE COLOR of the person you made small talk with.

Note that asking for directions or the time does not constitute small talk, because it has a purpose and intent.

First: I'm in the checkout line with 3 items in the 15 items or less line at the grocery store. I open with "what do you do when a customer has more than 15 items," she replies with "I tell them I can't help them, lol, naw I help them out, no big deal bla bla bla," she goes on about that for a second then I get my stuff and tell her to have a nice day. (Grey Eyes)

Second: I went to go see my dermatologist and as I was signing in, she just told me that I will be seen shortly so I said to her "lol u must recognize me because you didn't ask for my id or anything," she chuckled then said "I saw you rname when you signed in," she proceeded to ask how I pronounced my name and then pronounced i tright and I said good job, most people mispronounce my name. (brown eyes)

Third: (Kinda drunk, a little buzzed) Me and a buddy of mine we're waiting in line at the club and I saw this girl that had a lip ring so I decided to tease her saying, "lol u have an earring on your lip, how cute", she started giving me $hit saying "it's a lip ring, not an earring" so I teased her about that for a while, she ended up asking me to tak eher number at the end of the night (brown eyes..i think? It was dark)

Fourth: (Next day at the club, a little buzzed) I walk in to this nice bar (called the redbar) for my buddys g/fs bday and as soon as I walk into the vip part I run into this chick making e.c w/ me and say "whats up" she's "like what's up with you" I'l like "i'm here meeting up w/ some people but what's going on later on, I'll come talk to you" she says "I duno, what's up with you later on"...this chick seemed down THAT NIGHT, I tell her I'm going to my friends, then I get social proofed by a lady friend of mine who starts talking to me and I introduce myself to everyone at the girls b.day...made a few more bar approaches that night but whatever.. (silverish eyes, man it was red in the bar, I didn't get a good luck)

Fifth: Finally at work, (this was actually my 1st one of the day) this lady with huge boobs was being helped by a coworker of mine in the kiosk where I work and he goes to the back to get a phone for her so it's jut me and her and there's an awkward silence so I approach her with "Hey, I wanna try something out on you, my cousin played this trick on me and she got me, I just wanna see if I'm gullible or if I can get someone else" she giggles a little and says "ok what is it", I explain the game to her and for those of you who have seen Styles "Annihilation Method," you'll know exactly the game I was playing. I pulled out a penny, a nickel, and a dime, and ran the "Ben's mother had 3 sons" game on her, yeah she fell for it, lol, she laughed and was agreeing that I wasn't gullible, my coworker comes out and asks, "did he just play the 5 questions game" on you, I say no then proceed to play the "5 questions" game with her and she loses that one too, we end up small talking about her going to school and majoring in photography...small talk, small talk, small talk, and that was about it.....(brown eyes)

that's about it, questions and critiques greatly appreciated, thanks.

 

[Trendsetter]

Thanks for the heads up Lust. Unfortunately when I got a hold of the bootcamp, some of the stuff was apparently purposely messed up so people that pirated the software were not able to get ALL of the assignment so I only have the main part, I don't have access to any of the audiofiles or the pdf's. If you still have them and don't mind im'ing me them, Id appreciate it.

Anyways, I think I made small talk with about 20 people the past 4 days, just not able to post. Went out on Friday and Saturday which boosted my numbers, had a hard time figuring out peoples eye color at night in the club but here are five I can remember off the top of my head.



TASK 6: Completed

Go out and make small talk with five more strangers today.

But we’re going to add one piece to the exercise:

This time, be sure that you make EYE CONTACT with the person.

In fact, when you report back on your experiences in the Forums, write down the EYE COLOR of the person you made small talk with.

Note that asking for directions or the time does not constitute small talk, because it has a purpose and intent.

First: I'm in the checkout line with 3 items in the 15 items or less line at the grocery store. I open with "what do you do when a customer has more than 15 items," she replies with "I tell them I can't help them, lol, naw I help them out, no big deal bla bla bla," she goes on about that for a second then I get my stuff and tell her to have a nice day. (Grey Eyes)

Second: I went to go see my dermatologist and as I was signing in, she just told me that I will be seen shortly so I said to her "lol u must recognize me because you didn't ask for my id or anything," she chuckled then said "I saw you rname when you signed in," she proceeded to ask how I pronounced my name and then pronounced i tright and I said good job, most people mispronounce my name. (brown eyes)

Third: (Kinda drunk, a little buzzed) Me and a buddy of mine we're waiting in line at the club and I saw this girl that had a lip ring so I decided to tease her saying, "lol u have an earring on your lip, how cute", she started giving me $hit saying "it's a lip ring, not an earring" so I teased her about that for a while, she ended up asking me to tak eher number at the end of the night (brown eyes..i think? It was dark)

Fourth: (Next day at the club, a little buzzed) I walk in to this nice bar (called the redbar) for my buddys g/fs bday and as soon as I walk into the vip part I run into this chick making e.c w/ me and say "whats up" she's "like what's up with you" I'l like "i'm here meeting up w/ some people but what's going on later on, I'll come talk to you" she says "I duno, what's up with you later on"...this chick seemed down THAT NIGHT, I tell her I'm going to my friends, then I get social proofed by a lady friend of mine who starts talking to me and I introduce myself to everyone at the girls b.day...made a few more bar approaches that night but whatever.. (silverish eyes, man it was red in the bar, I didn't get a good luck)

Fifth: Finally at work, (this was actually my 1st one of the day) this lady with huge boobs was being helped by a coworker of mine in the kiosk where I work and he goes to the back to get a phone for her so it's jut me and her and there's an awkward silence so I approach her with "Hey, I wanna try something out on you, my cousin played this trick on me and she got me, I just wanna see if I'm gullible or if I can get someone else" she giggles a little and says "ok what is it", I explain the game to her and for those of you who have seen Styles "Annihilation Method," you'll know exactly the game I was playing. I pulled out a penny, a nickel, and a dime, and ran the "Ben's mother had 3 sons" game on her, yeah she fell for it, lol, she laughed and was agreeing that I wasn't gullible, my coworker comes out and asks, "did he just play the 5 questions game" on you, I say no then proceed to play the "5 questions" game with her and she loses that one too, we end up small talking about her going to school and majoring in photography...small talk, small talk, small talk, and that was about it.....(brown eyes)

that's about it, questions and critiques greatly appreciated, thanks.

 

[Trendsetter]

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[Lust]

Hey mate,

Yeah I can send you the files, they are fairly large though.

How is your internet connection? If it's decent I can provide some links for you to download them off upload sites.

Anyway, keep it up. Try doing some of the exercises like the small talk during the day time, bookstores and coffee shops are great.

Good luck! Keep it up mate!

PS.

my coworker comes out and asks, "did he just play the 5 questions game" on you, I say no then proceed to play the "5 questions" game with her and she loses that one too

Ahaha, nice. Is he your wing? Cause that was perfect. 5 questions I absolutely abuse the hell out of, hehe.

 

[Trendsetter]

Ok so this seems like it may take more than 31 days. Sorry I just have a really busy schedule working 40 hours and going to school full time but I'll try to follow the program as much as I can. So anyway...

Day 3

TASK 4: In Progress

Dial a local number randomly on your telephone. When someone answers, try to get him or her to recommend a good movie to watch.


Ok how much did this suck for me, I *67'd and dialed 25 numbers, only 1 person answered.

Other Line: Hello

Me: Hi, can I speak to timmy please?

Other line: Sorry you have the wrong numebr

Me: Oh really, well maybe u can help me out, my g/f and I are going out this weekend and I would like to know if u can recommend any good movies that have come out lately

Other line: (chuckles) sorry cant help ya there buddy.

Me: Ok, thanks a lot

After this, I proceeded to block my number and call about 25-30 other numbers, most of the numbers were disconnected or no one answered. I see the idea behind this idea though as I did feel kind of nervous before someone answered and I was forced to talk to them on the spot. May need to revisit this task to get more openers.


Yeah Lust, that would be a great idea because Im not able to do any of those mindshaping exercises or some of the other ones because I wasn't able to d/l/ them, u can just im me, thanks Lust.