SmooveMooves
Master Don Juan
My buddy and I have a system we use to maintain healthy relationships. It's easy to take all the knowledge we have and become a Alpha machine oblivious to being to distant and pushing the chick away from us. So what me and my buddy do is give out "treats" Which is basically showing an unusual amount of affection just to keep balance.
Now note I say "unusual", treats are not the only time we're affectionate. Treats are just a grand display of affection.(compared to the frame weve set) We limit ourselves to '2 a week' and give them out only when we feel they've been earned or are needed.
For example say she does something that really makes you happy, or was extraordinarily thoughtful, (She cooked your favorite dish and brought it to you at work as a suprise) I'll give out a "treat" in the form of doing something thoughtful in return.
My buddy gave his girl one because she was feeling really insecure and unvalidated and he hadn't validated her in a while.
These aren't rules set in stone that we actually follow to a T. Just something interesting I thought I'd share.
Thoughts?
"If you're too cold, she'll get the warmth from someone else, if you're too close she'll create the distance herself." BALANCE
Now note I say "unusual", treats are not the only time we're affectionate. Treats are just a grand display of affection.(compared to the frame weve set) We limit ourselves to '2 a week' and give them out only when we feel they've been earned or are needed.
For example say she does something that really makes you happy, or was extraordinarily thoughtful, (She cooked your favorite dish and brought it to you at work as a suprise) I'll give out a "treat" in the form of doing something thoughtful in return.
My buddy gave his girl one because she was feeling really insecure and unvalidated and he hadn't validated her in a while.
These aren't rules set in stone that we actually follow to a T. Just something interesting I thought I'd share.
Thoughts?
"If you're too cold, she'll get the warmth from someone else, if you're too close she'll create the distance herself." BALANCE