Hey guys, I came across an apparent paradox in DJ-dom today. There are many posts that say to make your target girl feel special and that that's the way to go for a relationship. However, other people say to "treat them mean, keep them keen." Aren't these two mutually exclusive? How can a DJ be both of these things at once? Or can a dj be both, if so, how? thanks
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Treating them: special or mean?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
diplomatic_lies
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You bash them up on the first date.
Seriously though I dont know why people act like jerks. I treat everyone around me with a friendly attitude. As long as you set limits with every girl (everyone too), then you're fine.
Seriously though I dont know why people act like jerks. I treat everyone around me with a friendly attitude. As long as you set limits with every girl (everyone too), then you're fine.
Panther
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I think it would depend. Basically, the more of a b-shield and attitude the girl has, the more neg-hits and playful bashing u need to dish out (without being a real @sshole)
If she's a friendly, girl-next-door type then you just do light teasing and humour.
Be always unpredictable and decisive, and always put her in her place when she does something you don't like or disrespects you.
but otherwise you don't need to act mean
ThePanther
If she's a friendly, girl-next-door type then you just do light teasing and humour.
Be always unpredictable and decisive, and always put her in her place when she does something you don't like or disrespects you.
but otherwise you don't need to act mean
ThePanther
You should always treat people how they DESERVE to be treated. Don't let contradicting posts confuse you.
I assume that you are a newbie. Whether or not you attract/seduce any female is irrelevant (in the beginning). Your primary focus should be on respecting yourself and commanding the respect of others.
Improving your physical appearance works wonders for this. So does socializing and making NEW friends. Go to a few parties and make small talk. Gauge how different girls react to you. Embrace your failures and learn from them. The posts in this web-site are not perfect so gain some real-life social experience and use that as the primary source of your learning.
I assume that you are a newbie. Whether or not you attract/seduce any female is irrelevant (in the beginning). Your primary focus should be on respecting yourself and commanding the respect of others.
Improving your physical appearance works wonders for this. So does socializing and making NEW friends. Go to a few parties and make small talk. Gauge how different girls react to you. Embrace your failures and learn from them. The posts in this web-site are not perfect so gain some real-life social experience and use that as the primary source of your learning.
squirrels
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Best way I can think of to sum it up:
-Don't give her ****
-Don't take **** from her.
-Don't give her ****
-Don't take **** from her.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Chemistry
Master Don Juan
Be friendly but mysterious... don't see them and buy them tons of drinks cos you're that nice guy and they're special that's what it's sayin... be careful not to misconstrue it... some people may be under the misconception that treatin em mean is not buyin them drinks and payin for everythin for them...
The only exception is certain stuck up HBs who want a guy to worship them... if you're vying for the same spotlight as them then you ain't goin nowhere with them cos when you go out they want the limelight, they don't want to share it with you... you'll find these with the richer, often older, but uglier guys, that way they live lavish, have the money to look good, and get ALL the attention...
The only exception is certain stuck up HBs who want a guy to worship them... if you're vying for the same spotlight as them then you ain't goin nowhere with them cos when you go out they want the limelight, they don't want to share it with you... you'll find these with the richer, often older, but uglier guys, that way they live lavish, have the money to look good, and get ALL the attention...
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Im not a dj yet or anywhere close. However, i think everyone here doesnt mean being mean is being a jerk/Ahole. I've learned that:
Sweet girls_ treat them with respect and moderate affection. They dont give you any sh i t so they dont expect any sh it back, you'd just look like an a s s hole if you're mean to her.
Beetchy girls_give them the same attitude they give you. Teasing and Neg-hits are absolute musts. But never act like a total jerk.
You fellas shine more light for me.
Sweet girls_ treat them with respect and moderate affection. They dont give you any sh i t so they dont expect any sh it back, you'd just look like an a s s hole if you're mean to her.
Beetchy girls_give them the same attitude they give you. Teasing and Neg-hits are absolute musts. But never act like a total jerk.
You fellas shine more light for me.