"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Treat 'em all the same.

jophil28

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My definition of "flake" is a woman who does not show up for a pre-arranged meet without a call or a text from her offering an explanation. She just "stands you up " .
THat is ALWAYS a demonstation of poor character on her part.
She gets not one more moment of my time..

However if a woman cancels by calling or even texting, she gets one more chance to prove herself.
Two cancellations leads to instant erasure from my book.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Loosing the game.

Alright, we were to meet last Friday for a movie at 7. She contacted me and said she is getting late and wanted to make it up to me by paying for the movie. I said cool. She came around 10pm to pick me up. We went to the movie and she indeed paid for the movie and the popcorn and everything else. Anyway, I know this girl has a great interest by for some reason I think I am loosing my game with her. I called her on Sunday and she went to another city to visit a friend and told me she'd call me when she return but she never called. She told me that friday that she will be going to visit her friend. Anyway, the problem is she never called when she returned. I have the feelings of not calling her. I simply run out of creative things to do with her... and I have the feeling her interest level is running low with me. Any suggestions on how to deal with this. Does allowing your woman to pick you up for a date lowers her interest level?
 

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amoka said:
for some reason I think I am loosing my game with her.
I'll say.

Your "game" is piss weak, looks like you need a good hard re-evaluation of how you pick up birds. And a movie ? *Yawn*
amoka said:
HB:"Ok I'm home. Thanks 4 2nite. I had a good time . Dnt party 2 hard, try to get some sleep." Haaa, Amoka never responded.
Haaa amoka's a rude tw@t. Theres a difference between playing aloof and busy or just being an idiot.

amoka said:
The initial plan was for her to come to my place and cook but I said "no thanks. I don't know you that well..." So we set up a movie date for that evening.
That was so stupid I cringed reading it - FAIL. An almost guaranteed lay and you pull that idiocy, what the hell ? Cordoncordon pretty much nailed it here.

amoka said:
My future plan with this chick is simple: No contacting her whatsoever. If she tries contacting, I'll not respond the first three times.
That'll show her....... For phucks sake go practice some more social interaction before you tool this bird around even more.

amoka said:
she has to "make it up to me" one way or the other. What are your thoughts?
Make up for what? You being a nimrod and failing? Just leave it.
 
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