"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Treat a woman like a child

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Pook talked about. I don't know where the thread is but I remember reading about it. I've heard it from random posters here and there. But the dilemma I have is what's the logic behind it?

Granted, I haven't been around little children. I don't have any young nieces/nephews that I could be around to really grasp how treating a woman like a child works. Does it really work? And on what kind of women does it really work?

Obviously, I'm aware that treating a woman like a child does not mean acting like a parent and telling her what to do. Then it'd be like screwing your own daughter. :eek:

Anyway, anyone have an insight?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The psychological term for it is "Response costs" which means only reward the woman for good behaviour.

Like do something or act in a way that is pleasing to the woman every time she does something you find good but be cold or dissaproving whenever she does something you find to be bad.

Do not reward her for bad behaviour.

Pretty elementary stuff but necessary as some guys still stuck in the AFC mindset think rewarding a chick for a bad mood is a good way to break her out of it but it isn't.

It just re-inforces that she'll get what she wants if she goes into bad mood mode.
 

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Wow thank you! It's funny how the elementary stuff just slips past us. I will keep this in mind.
 

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my problem is that women start treating me back and NOT in a funny way, but rather dry and sarcastically. this sucks. maybe i should focus more on 'funny' part on this '****y' thing... anyone experienced this?
 

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KontrollerX said:
The psychological term for it is "Response costs" which means only reward the woman for good behaviour.

Like do something or act in a way that is pleasing to the woman every time she does something you find good but be cold or dissaproving whenever she does something you find to be bad.

Do not reward her for bad behaviour.

Pretty elementary stuff but necessary as some guys still stuck in the AFC mindset think rewarding a chick for a bad mood is a good way to break her out of it but it isn't.

It just re-inforces that she'll get what she wants if she goes into bad mood mode.
This is a great philosophy for dealing with women in general, but ESPECIALLY on the dating scene. Women that have treated me good in the past find themselves rewarded with concert tickets, airline to Vegas, dinner, drinks, and invitations to all sorts of fun events. Women that have flaked wouldnt get help if they needed it after a bad traffic accident.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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KontrollerX said:
Do not reward her for bad behaviour.

Pretty elementary stuff but necessary as some guys still stuck in the AFC mindset think rewarding a chick for a bad mood is a good way to break her out of it but it isn't.
It may be but it takes a while for it to be ingrained. It's good to be reminded. AFC is supplicate to get the woman to do what you want. That's perfect behavior from a woman toward a man but doesn't work the other way around.

You just have to suck it up and let her take responsibility for the consequences of her actions. "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned". So be it.
 

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KontrollerX said:
The psychological term for it is "Response costs" which means only reward the woman for good behaviour.

Like do something or act in a way that is pleasing to the woman every time she does something you find good but be cold or dissaproving whenever she does something you find to be bad.

Do not reward her for bad behaviour.

Pretty elementary stuff but necessary as some guys still stuck in the AFC mindset think rewarding a chick for a bad mood is a good way to break her out of it but it isn't.

It just re-inforces that she'll get what she wants if she goes into bad mood mode.
:up: :up: :up: Killer Advice, and better than any advice an ignorant female could give.

I have a very similar philosophy with women I date. The nicer they are to me, the nicer I am to them. An attention wh0re gets little of my time. A "Just Friends" girl gets about equal time as the attention wh0re. "Waiter/Bartender, seperate checks" is the mantra with those two.

An interested woman is different. She pays for nothing. If an attention Wh0re wants a ride in my vehicle, she gets told "Ass, Gass, or Grass, nobody rides for free" (In my case tobacco) before she is allowed in the vehicle, or before I unlock the door. When she shells out at least 5 bucks, the door is unlocked. An interested woman gets doors opened for her. An interested woman gets dinner bought, and cover charges paid. Of course there is the payoff. If she lets me have what I want, she gets drinks, food and song all on me.
 
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