"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Dhoulmagus

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My major is in supply chain management/logistics and the job outlook for my field is great. However, my parents weren't as generous as some of my college friends and I never got to travel abroad. I'm not going to lie, I'm quite jealous of this because I love exploring. I look at maps for fun and I am that guy that enjoys long car rides. I **** up and traveled during the school year and racked up a 500 dollar credit car bill, but I can pay it off in the summer. It's hard for me to do anything during the school year because I have to make 15-20 hours a week stretch. However, my career calls for long hours and I am scared this will inhibit me from travelling. I really want to go to Europe, South America, and Africa. Any of yall in similar positions.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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LondonTowers

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Travel. You're young without commitments and the experience will grow you in ways that will help your career and life when you get back. You have a whole lifetime of career and money making but only one stab at youthful adventure unbound by responsibility. You will be surprised how quick you can get trapped in the world of work and material attainment. It will slowly corrode the free spirited mindset your fresh mind still has. So many curve balls can come your way which could derail this idea until it becomes that long lost fantasy of a thorn forever stuck at the hind of your psyche, progged anytime some long haired, backpacker skips past your visual periphery. So yeah.. Travel son!
 

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LondonTowers said:
Travel. You're young without commitments and the experience will grow you in ways that will help your career and life when you get back. You have a whole lifetime of career and money making but only one stab at youthful adventure unbound by responsibility. You will be surprised how quick you can get trapped in the world of work and material attainment. It will slowly corrode the free spirited mindset your fresh mind still has. So many curve balls can come your way which could derail this idea until it becomes that long lost fantasy of a thorn forever stuck at the hind of your psyche, progged anytime some long haired, backpacker skips past your visual periphery. Erm, so yeah.. Travel son!
What about a job wise? I don't want to be stuck as a pizza driver.
 

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Honestly man I think you should throw a coin and do it based on that. Either result is no loss man. I have always wanted to make a decision based on a toss of a coin but have not done it so far.
 

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Dhoulmagus said:
What about a job wise? I don't want to be stuck as a pizza driver.
LondonTowers is right, double down now before you find yourself (possibly) trapped in the rat race, hustling to make ends meet, especially if you are single. I can't tell you how often I've heard the lame excuse that a guy can't spend a week or two abroad not because he lacks the money or can't clear the time, but because his girlfriend can't go, or more pathetic - his girlfriend won't "let" him. Stakes go higher if that chick becomes his wife, and the coffin is all but nailed shut once she puts one in the oven.

I'm not suggesting that you squander away your 20s, but at least a week or two in a remote destination is something you almost certainly will not regret. Go see the World.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Between_The_Lines said:
LondonTowers is right, double down now before you find yourself (possibly) trapped in the rat race, hustling to make ends meet, especially if you are single. I can't tell you how often I've heard the lame excuse that a guy can't spend a week or two abroad not because he lacks the money or can't clear the time, but because his girlfriend can't go, or more pathetic - his girlfriend won't "let" him. Stakes go higher if that chick becomes his wife, and the coffin is all but nailed shut once she puts one in the oven.

I'm not suggesting that you squander away your 20s, but at least a week or two in a remote destination is something you almost certainly will not regret. Go see the World.
Ya I have a gf and I don't give a **** what she says. I'd like her to join me, but that can't always happen. Is it possible to take a week off vacation in a real job?
 

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Be careful with the credit cards. A $500 balance is no problem and can be easily paid off. But, it's a slippery slope to reach $1,000 then $2,000, etc.

Have some fun, but be very careful about charging on your card. I fully support travel, but plan your budget carefully.
 
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