Traveler Beware

[cherrytree111]

I've had a daily correspondence on the Internet with a woman in another country for the past five years. For the first year, it was just a friendship but then we decided to meet in person. Then, for the next three years, I had to care for an ailing parent and other obstacles prevented us from meeting in person. Finally, we made arrangements to meet in person in the next two or three months. Recently, I found out she was sexting and sex-camming four other guys. At my urging, she has broken off contact with all but one to whom she is the most attracted but says she is only a friend. She has low self-esteem because she is the only one amongst her sisters and brother who is still unmarried, has no family or home of her own or no stable employment.
If these stressors were removed from her life, would she still seek attention and approval inappropriately? We decided a long time ago to keep the friendship no matter what. Is anything more still worth considering or should even meeting in person be out-of-the-question now? :nono: :yes:

 

[sexysuave]

Why would you talk DAILY to a woman in another country for 5 YEARS? Are you a troll? I sure hope so.

Otherwise, no man, just drop the whole thing altogether... it's just nt worth it. You've invested 5 YEARS into this, without even meeting someone? Jesus man, what the f*ck are some of you guys doing out there...

Look, if you're really desperate, meet her and see how she is in person. I dunno, depending where you are in your life, and if this is what you want, and you just can't lose her "no matter what" as you said, just marry her or something, I mean, 5 years daily contact, you might as well be married.. It's probably a gamble, but hell, any marriage is a gamble nowadays, ..

I'm guessing you only talked to her for 5 years because you're desperate as f*ck and can see your self ending up with this chick? well, if that's the case, go scoop out the situation, make sure she doesn't have a pen*s, see if she wants the same thing, and just get hitched man..

If that's not waht you want, then DROP HER IMMEDIATELY and go no contact!! You're wasting like a million and one opportunities around you by keeping DAILY CONTACT with a chick in another country.. So either you're all in (just get hitched), or you're all OUT (NO CONTACT at all)...

Nothing in between!! She will be a roadblock to you falling for girls here, since you have this immaginary f*cking connection built up with her over the past 5 years, and the fact that it's long distance just makes it more spicy and romantic.. chances are, if you lived in the same city and started dating 5 years ago, you would have gotten on each others last nerve by WEEK 5... (she clearly has issues... and you probably do too).. But hey, find out for your self... but either you're ALL IN or ALL OUT..

IN this case, I truly hope you are actually just a troll BSing around.. 'cause this is just some sad sh*t..

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

Very nice of you to give a legitimate response, sexysuave.

I just assumed the guy was a troll.

First post on the board. Crazy story. Excessive use of emoticons....it just doesn't sound right.

But even if this guy is serious, he needs to rebuild himself from the foundation.

 

[Drdeee]

Manly like tampax soaked in estrogen! Tonight I'm not gonna touch my **** in celebration of escaping the fem farm some 5 years ago.

 

[cordoncordon]

I've had a daily correspondence on the Internet with a woman in another country for the past five years. For the first year, it was just a friendship but then we decided to meet in person. Then, for the next three years, I had to care for an ailing parent and other obstacles prevented us from meeting in person. Finally, we made arrangements to meet in person in the next two or three months. Recently, I found out she was sexting and sex-camming four other guys. At my urging, she has broken off contact with all but one to whom she is the most attracted but says she is only a friend. She has low self-esteem because she is the only one amongst her sisters and brother who is still unmarried, has no family or home of her own or no stable employment.
If these stressors were removed from her life, would she still seek attention and approval inappropriately? We decided a long time ago to keep the friendship no matter what. Is anything more still worth considering or should even meeting in person be out-of-the-question now? :nono: :yes:

This can't be real can it? You have talked just about every day with a woman from another country for 5 YEARS??? WTF? And she is sexting others and you want to actually meet this weirdo? Wow. You must be desperate.

 

[cherrytree111]

Very nice of you to give a legitimate response, sexysuave.

I just assumed the guy was a troll.

First post on the board. Crazy story. Excessive use of emoticons....it just doesn't sound right.

But even if this guy is serious, he needs to rebuild himself from the foundation.

What is a "troll"? I am serious by the way, despite how crazy the story sounds. So, "rebuild myself from the foundation"?

 

[cherrytree111]

Why would you talk DAILY to a woman in another country for 5 YEARS? Are you a troll? I sure hope so.

Otherwise, no man, just drop the whole thing altogether... it's just nt worth it. You've invested 5 YEARS into this, without even meeting someone? Jesus man, what the f*ck are some of you guys doing out there...

Look, if you're really desperate, meet her and see how she is in person. I dunno, depending where you are in your life, and if this is what you want, and you just can't lose her "no matter what" as you said, just marry her or something, I mean, 5 years daily contact, you might as well be married.. It's probably a gamble, but hell, any marriage is a gamble nowadays, ..

I'm guessing you only talked to her for 5 years because you're desperate as f*ck and can see your self ending up with this chick? well, if that's the case, go scoop out the situation, make sure she doesn't have a pen*s, see if she wants the same thing, and just get hitched man..

If that's not waht you want, then DROP HER IMMEDIATELY and go no contact!! You're wasting like a million and one opportunities around you by keeping DAILY CONTACT with a chick in another country.. So either you're all in (just get hitched), or you're all OUT (NO CONTACT at all)...

Nothing in between!! She will be a roadblock to you falling for girls here, since you have this immaginary f*cking connection built up with her over the past 5 years, and the fact that it's long distance just makes it more spicy and romantic.. chances are, if you lived in the same city and started dating 5 years ago, you would have gotten on each others last nerve by WEEK 5... (she clearly has issues... and you probably do too).. But hey, find out for your self... but either you're ALL IN or ALL OUT..

IN this case, I truly hope you are actually just a troll BSing around.. 'cause this is just some sad sh*t..

Thanks for the sound advice. Yeah, you'r right.....it is some sad sh*t.

 

[iMan]

I've had a daily correspondence on the Internet with a woman in another country for the past five years. For the first year, it was just a friendship but then we decided to meet in person. Then, for the next three years, I had to care for an ailing parent and other obstacles prevented us from meeting in person. Finally, we made arrangements to meet in person in the next two or three months. Recently, I found out she was sexting and sex-camming four other guys. At my urging, she has broken off contact with all but one to whom she is the most attracted but says she is only a friend. She has low self-esteem because she is the only one amongst her sisters and brother who is still unmarried, has no family or home of her own or no stable employment.
If these stressors were removed from her life, would she still seek attention and approval inappropriately? We decided a long time ago to keep the friendship no matter what. Is anything more still worth considering or should even meeting in person be out-of-the-question now? :nono: :yes:

:crackup:

Being in some way surprised that a random girl on the Internet has been showing her bits and having sex talk with guys other than you is like being surprised that a stripper who gave you a lapdance also does it to other guys!

You're either a troll or very naive!

 

[Zarky]

Wow, the OP needs some serious bootcamp. He is AFC to the extreme. Nothing wrong with starting there, but assuming his posts are real he's got a LOOONG road ahead.