"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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OK, I'll try and translate this in english, but it's tricky to say it even in my native language.

I started dating an HB8, so one day, just before we said goodbye, she was yapin bout something she wanted to have (can't remember what exactly it was), so I said to her (in a totaly c/f manner): "arent you a spoiled little brat!"

she was insulted by it, but I didn't give a damn. I started talkin bout sth. else, and we ended things on a good note. So, like 20 minutes later she sent me an SMS: "yada, yada... you know, there is a difference in being spoiled and wanting to be pampered a little bit..."

ok, what's a DJ's response to that? It could be a great cue.. but I have no ideas...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I wouldn't respond at all. She's obviously been thinking about it far more than you have; whereas your remark was off-the-cuff and instinctive, hers was well-thought out and pre-planned. Apparently what you said hit a nerve or it wouldn't have made her feel the need to send you a text justifying herself hours after the fact...
 
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doesn't sound so much as ******** but rather her trying to justify being a spoiled brat by calling it pampering. Qmanchoo's reply was pretty damn funny though. But personally I would just take Diablo's advice and not really care. Seems she is both spoiled and overly sensitive about it.
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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as I feared - lost in translation...
in our language it could almost have a sexual meaning to it. well, it's ambiguous - when you are "pampering" someone (although it's not the most suitable translation) it could mean you are giving them some pleasure...

I was like, sure, I'll give more pleasure then you hoped for! :cool:
No, I actually just ignored the whole thing, hoping she will feel foolish about it... Oh, how I like when they feel foolish :D
 
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She's just asking for attention,
give her little doses and keep her wanting more.

Tell her she' can have all the pampering she wants, they are only $5 a box.
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While that would be funny, i think thats where you cross the line between c&f and jerk...
your best bet is to play it off cool while she tries to repair her ego
from the bruising you gave her earlier.... :kick:

She's supplicating to you, which is right where you want her. And if you want, you can tease her gently about it later... for the ultimate effect. ;)

She will probably get a bit defensive and try to prove to you that she's not a spoiled brat. Make sure she does something to prove herself to you.

Ahhh, Mindfu*king at its finest...
 
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Originally posted by gargamel
OK, I'll try and translate this in english, but it's tricky to say it even in my native language.

I started dating an HB8, so one day, just before we said goodbye, she was yapin bout something she wanted to have (can't remember what exactly it was), so I said to her (in a totaly c/f manner): "arent you a spoiled little brat!"

she was insulted by it, but I didn't give a damn. I started talkin bout sth. else, and we ended things on a good note. So, like 20 minutes later she sent me an SMS: "yada, yada... you know, there is a difference in being spoiled and wanting to be pampered a little bit..."

ok, what's a DJ's response to that? It could be a great cue.. but I have no ideas...
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Tell her to knock herself out buying whatever she expected you to fork over your hard earned money. Then dump that hor. Only hor's ask for their men to buy them stuff.

Only AFC will give into them also.
 
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Tell her to knock herself out buying whatever she expected you to fork over your hard earned money. Then dump that hor. Only hor's ask for their men to buy them stuff.

Only AFC will give into them also.
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It's a different society where he's coming from. Over there, people (both guys and girls) are materialistic as hell. Everyone wears overpriced brandname clothing, and it's basically a society where people throw money around. Say you went out drinking with a group of friends here in north america, you'd all get seperate bills at the end of the night. Over there, it's almost like a competition for the check, to see who will pay it. One person always pays it, and the person who does has a higher status then other people at the table. Like I said, people throw money around like crazy and live in the moment (even if they're close to being broke).

While it does sound like a chump way to live, that's how the society is there. Most girls are domestic (cook, clean, don't have jobs), and men provide for them. Sadly, they're used to guys buying them sh!t in order to get in their pants, and it's almost like a social norm.


to the original poster: sta ti je ona rekla? budi detaljan
 
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funny thing tho

It's a different society where he's coming from. Over there, people (both guys and girls) are materialistic as hell. Everyone wears overpriced brandname clothing, and it's basically a society where people throw money around.
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...and at the same time calling americans "superficial". Can't help but lmao when I hear BS like that.

Sorry about the off topic notion but it really gets me how people can't break the AFC mindset around here: one of my friends buys shoes for his girl and sees nothing remotely wrong there...go figure

Gargamel, do tell in serbian it will be easier for us to understand.
 

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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

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It wasn't in serbian, it was in slovenian...

"...obstaja razlika med biti razvajen in biti razvajan.. "

mi nekako nemamo prevod za biti razvajan
u slobodnom prevodu bi to nekako znaèilo: biti mažen i pažen

ne bi se ja toliko sa time bavio, da mi nije stavila ;-) smajlija na kraju.. a znajuæi nju, ona voli tako da daje dvoumna aludiranja na "razmenu nežnosti", ako me razumete.. skoro sam siguran da je htela da kaže: želim malo da me razmaziš... i nije mislila na kesh!

she aint no gold digger, she didn't mean "please buy me something"!
I think she wanted to say she wants someone to pay some special attention to her.. timewise, not $$wise.
So the first thing I wanted to do is DO IT, but make it worth my while... quid pro quo

any thoughts?
 
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