"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Transitioning into an Existing Social Circle (if you are a male).....

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I know this is probably easier for girls, since it's pretty obvious that any society you go to allow girls to seem "vulnerable" and thus the guys& girls feel obligated to take them in. If you're a guy, it seems that the other males give you a warm welcome, but then after that you're kind of "on your own", and this is more severe when the group is considered even more tight-knit and clique-ish.

This is one of the reasons why I sometimes think that life would be easier being born as part of the female sex.... as long as you're not super dumb. You can sort of cling to the people in the social circle and they will think it's cute, and you won't end up looking like the creepy loner who's trying to fit in.

But I was wondering, from you guys' experiences, what would be the best way for a college-aged man (who's not a freshman, so unfortunately he doesn't have the excuse that he's new to the campus).... to find a niche as soon as he can in the circle? I'm also neither an extravert nor an introvert, but somewhere in between. All the girls&guys I know in this circle are just acquaintances, but it seems like they are really good friends with each other......
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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This isn't for gaming purposes. It's for finding a community to belong in and not having to feel lonely all the time. (and this group is probably the most similar to myself from all the groups I've observed so far).

Is it possible, and how likely is it, to become one of the "key figures" in this group, when most of them became friends since freshman year, and are now seniors? (I'm just a sophomore, and no other sophomore is there)
 
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Sounds like your forcing it, where is your old friends and other unrelated friends?

Making friends is a funny thing.
 
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