Transition period.

[DoItAgain]

For years, I used to be obsessed with meeting "The One." Even after briefly dating a woman that was my physical ideal and getting burned by her, I still was a hopeless romantic who wanted that "all in one" girlfriend.

I recently went on vacation to Orlando and Virginia Beach and realized a lot of things. While it's perfectly normal to want a girlfriend....I seemed to want one just because of the scarity mentality of where I live. I guess I felt "Ok, I need to grab a cutie or a hottie and find a way to keep her." I saw more attractive women in a two week period than I usually see in a year of being around where I live.

It made me place less emphasis on one particular woman - a woman I haven't even met at that - and just want to play the field...not to be a player...but to experience a lot of different women in and out of bed.

I've since dropped the HB9-10 standards and simply looked for "She's cute/pretty/hot...I'd do her."

The problem is, I'm still not happy (dating wise speaking.) While it feels a lot better than wanting to put your effort into one woman who it probably isn't going to work out with anyway, it seems like an insatiable appetite, and I'm not sure if this is because I'm horny as hell and haven't had sex in a long time, or if I just crave women like Oprah craves donuts.

My question I guess is, does the horniness decrease after playing the field a little, or is this a never-ending quest?

 

[Kailex]

The epicenter of your problem seems to lie within and not within the vaginal cavities of the women that you are laying.

Are you happy with YOUR life?
Are you going out with women because they are your central focus?

What are your hobbies?
What do you do to add value to your life?

I'm glad you realized that there's no such thing as "The One" but throughout your post, I get a vibe of "meh". Yes, it's about placing less emphasis on women, but because the emphasis and focus should be on yourself first. You must already have a high value of your own life before you can start finding women that can add even more value to your already bountiful life, and of course, to satisfy your man parts.

 

[DoItAgain]

Are you happy with YOUR life?
Are you going out with women because they are your central focus?

What are your hobbies?
What do you do to add value to your life?

That's the thing, my personal life has never been better. Of course, there's always room for improvement, and I'm far from where I want to be, but I'm achieving my non-women related goals. My big goal, for years, was to start a rock cover band with members as talented as myself (I play keyboards and guitar)...it finally happened and we have paying gigs lined up.

In fact, I pretty much planned my parents surprise 30th anniversary party on my own, rented out the hall, got the catering and everything, and the band played there and everyone loved us.

I will admit, however, that for whatever reason, maybe perhaps not being busy enough, maybe just a build up of hormones, having sex with women means too much to me at the moment. I haven't had sex in over 8 years and my tastes have changed drastically since then along with my confidence around women.

What I'm not sure I guess, is if I just need to get laid to take the edge off, or if I'm in a situation at the moment where I have an insatiable appetite due to not being busy enough?

 

[boynamedsue]

only one way to find out right?????
once you have sex with a girl you will have your answer. My opinion is you will still feel the same. I think its on our nature to want to "spread our seed" as much as possible.