"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Transforming
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
CyranoDeBergerac
Master Don Juan
Two things:
First: It all depends on the student. Some take to it like a Duck to Water, some work at it until they realize their potential, but for all it in the extension of their most positive self.
Second: You're 15. You have all the time in the world, so take as much as you need to get it right...
Señor Fingers
Master Don Juan
For real though...like Cyrano said, it all depends. Personally it took me about a year to really change my mentality and get results. Everyone is different though and there is never a point where you arrive and say "Okay, thats it I am now a DJ...hooray for me!"
It doesnt work this way. In fact the learning never stops! I still fail miserably from time to time. The difference between me and the AFC is that I have learned to sincerely laugh it off when I crash and burn.
Kind of like learning to ice skate. Do you get all upset and down on yourself when you fall and your friends laugh at you? Or do you laugh right along with them, get up and brush yourself off?
The crux of the AFC is that he takes his own self image wayyy too seriously. Experimentation becomes a scary thing instead of the FUN its supposed to be.
In short...
Trial & Error is the DJs lifetime companion. Learn to love it and you will be flying in no time!