"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Transcript...asked her out

Single_Sucks

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So I had a one night stand with a pretty girl, next time I saw her we chatted and at one point I kind of asked her out...

Me: So how would you like to go for a drink on Thursday? Maybe just the two of us this time.
Her: I don't think that would be very fair on my housemate.
Me: Yes, well..err..(bewildered)..what do you think about the idea of doing that in general?
Her: Erm...Maybe, i'll think about it.
Me: ok

Then we changed conversation and the evening continued. I took no further action from then on, as I interpreted this as clear rejection. The next day she came to me out of the blue and said explained something about having job interviews in a far away city,which could be relevant. Anyway, I have her on facebook now so there is a channel open if she wants to get in contact.

Can any of you critique this (I'm sure you can) and say what you would have done diffrently? particularly with relevance to the '(bewildered)' piece, lol....
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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WalkingStick

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Yeah, I would've thrown in a C+F comment in place of the (bewildered). I wouldnt say the statement was clear rejection.

It's also possible your one night stand was just that, remember to keep your head.

Good Luck
 

Single_Sucks

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oh yeh, looking like it was just a one nighter i agree

still, if Im interested I like to find out. If she is interested I think she will contact me with facebook. Any more opinions on the transcript?
 

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Thats clearly a rejection. "I'll think about it" is a nice way of saying "get lost".
You both got what you wanted from each other. Time to move on.
 

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There is NO way you can create attraction in her eyes at this point. The ONLY way is to make her jealous.. let her see you with a hotter girl. That is your only option in case you really want her that bad.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Single_Sucks

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There is NO way you can create attraction in her eyes at this point
Yeh she pretty much rejected me. If she was interested then I would have gotten a TOTALLY different response.
Damn it really, cos she is so so so hot.

Well, we are on good terms and have agreed to hang out again when I visit her flatmate. Who knows...maybe more 'fun' if I go there and really play it cool/relaxed/playful.
 

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well dude you already shagged her..........turning a one niter into short term fun has to be mutual. If you want a "relationship" that too started off on the wrong foot.

Your question: you basically asked her permission for another date........QUE THE WUSS THEME SONG. Lowered your prizability, DLV, basically you let all the wind out of your sail.

WHAT SHOULD YOU HAVE SAID/DONE........glad u asked

YOU:hey last night (or when ever it was) was ummmmm ok I guess......

HER: OK...........WHATS THAT SPOSE TO MEAN

YOU: I just thought you had some skills thats all.............you were fine......anyways maybe one day I might give you another chance, you know one where I might get your best game.............unless of course thats all there is...............

then say later, and move on.............IT WAS A ONE NIGHTER.........making lightening strike twice differs with each chic.

I would focus on doing the exact same process on someone new.
 

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COD said:
YOU: I just thought you had some skills thats all.............you were fine......anyways maybe one day I might give you another chance, you know one where I might get your best game.............unless of course thats all there is...............
but what if she cusses him down for his performance as a response?
 

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then challenger her for a rematch..........U want that banter, you want her to think about it, be in that sexual state of mind.

If he did things correct......her cussing is not an accurate assesment ...rather auto defensive move.
 

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QUE THE WUSS THEME SONG
Dum de de dum - dum dum dum de de - la lee la lee la la la - ta ta ta ta dum

It's true I guess, can't ask for a relationship, no matter how subtle (i thought i was very subtle)
That is the girl's job
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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