"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Training awareness: good exercise?

Egoist

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I was walking down the street and thinking, ok, so I technically can't approach every girl i see, in every situation..

but maybe, the least I can do is figure out how I would do it if i had to. So now as I'm walking to the bus, to the store, from work, etc.. Whenever i see a cute girl, i ask myself "look at her and tell me how you would open her, what you'd talk about, etc" So basically always looking for appearance/situation/etc -based openers..

what do you guys think, good/bad strategy?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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It's a great exercise because you can come up with your own openers instead of canned ones. You'll become more aware of your surroundings and become a better conversationalist.

This is how I look for openers.
 
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