"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Tragedy Prevention?

Buddha_Mind

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There was an issue around here recently where a young man, whose girlfriend ended a relationship with him, drove his own car into on-coming traffic, not only killing himself, but an innocent person in on the on-coming lane. It was a suicide by desperation and sadness, that very selfishly, took another person too.

But man it sure makes me wonder what that kid might have done differently if he had found some place to learn and vent his frustrations.

Sometimes it seems like when you're dealing with female-related garbage, seeing clearly can be difficult, and if your immediate social circles are unable to relate, a person might feel entirely trapped.

Clearly this kid acted incredibly selfishly out of desperation -- but I do feel bad for him in some ways, with the great pain in his mind being so much to bare going to such extremes.

There is great value in providing a place for people to understand they are not alone in bullsh!t they've experienced. Made me think of this place, and perhaps how some people, upon finding it, can keep their mental "cool", and prevent them from doing something they might gravely regret.

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I also want to say thanks to all of those who have helped me in rough times, those who've I've PM'd and have taken the time to give me genuine and real responses. To wiser and better ways.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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That is the thing in todays society young men are taught nothing about their emotions and how we can very easily become attached to a women. This is even more so given that women mature probably 5 years ahead of us. So perhaps the parents especially the men and fathers should be training up their juniors from a young age so they know how to protect their hearts until they have a keeper.
 

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What can men do in a society that systematically emasculates them.

structurally

UNDER THE LAW

What can boys learn about positive masculinity when they grow up in single mother households? Where more often than not the mother is openly raging at the father/ex-husband and the law blindly sides with her.
 

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Burroughs said:
What can boys learn about positive masculinity when they grow up in single mother households? Where more often than not the mother is openly raging at the father/ex-husband and the law blindly sides with her.
I agree with this -- I've had a positive male father figure in my life -- this is probably why I am more prone to believe in good relationships, etc, and despite my personal pain, still have some conviction there ARE good situations out there.

But what about someone who has had very very negative father experiences, or both negative father AND mother experiences?

Where are they to build their mental archetypes from?
 

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Where are they to build their mental archetypes from?
nowhere.

that's why we have a generation of people age 20-40 who will NEVER GROW UP.

Men or women..this is the paradigm folks. The war of the sexes in a bloody stalemate.

Women who deeply, deeply hate and resent men. Who desire them as providers but in NO WAY want to please them.

Men who are confused by women...BUT REALLY REALLY WANT TO FVCK THEM every way in every orifice (thanks porn).

Its a dynamic designed to insure mass confusion
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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