Traditional Weddings vs Courthouse Marriages

[CornbreadFed]

I am noticing a lot of my remaining single friends get married at the courthouse instead of the traditional route right now. In addition, apparently it is trending right now. I hope Gen Z puts an end to the traditional wedding because I have never in my life saw the appeal in them. I can understand a ceremony, but weddings just seem too extra.



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[SW15]

I hope Gen Z puts an end to the traditional wedding because I have never in my life saw the appeal in them. I can understand a ceremony, but weddings just seem too extra.

The more traditional weddings seem to cause social problems with invitees. Someone's feelings get hurt due to being excluded from an invitation. The marrying couple can get upset with behavior from their invitees too.

There were numerous drama situations that arose from traditional weddings in my Millennial social circle. I would also like to see Gen Z end the traditional wedding too.

 

[Cowboy-Cheems]

Most court house style marriages I see are typically done when one or both of the parties have been previously divorced. Having a second big ceremony is expensive and making family/friends go through that whole song and dance again just seems weird to most people. It is also a viable option for broke couples and "shotgun wedded" teens as well.

 

[SW15]

Most court house style marriages I see are typically done when one or both of the parties have been previously divorced. Having a second big ceremony is expensive and making family/friends go through that whole song and dance again just seems weird to most people.

The big wedding and reception is done for people's first weddings, typically a woman's first wedding. When one or both of the participants is divorced, things are a little bit more subdued.

People who practice religion will need to get married in the church building of their faith. Church weddings have been declining since at least 2000.

 

[Stanley]

A good friend of mine got married over the summer to his long time girlfriend. She actually proposed to him , did not want a ceremony, put the money towards a home, so they walked into a courthouse and got it done. I thought that was pretty cool in the sense they both had no interest in the vanity of a formal ceremony. But this is the only couple I know of that has done this and the women I engage with (20's to early 30's) express wanting a large wedding with all the bells and whistles all the time...

I see an alarming trend amongst my peers where the man goes about doing all of the traditional Western marriage acts and bends over backwards, but the woman isn't 'traditional'.

Alongside that, I know several couples who have a hyphenated surname or the woman refuses the man's name. I think if one is aspiring to have a formal wedding where the father of the bride walks her down the aisle and offers her to the groom... then she should take the name. There are exceptions, but feminist seem to push that the taking of a name is based around coverture alone and that a woman is now an indentured servant. Pretty bleak outlook when in most cases it is a welcoming into the family and should be a positive thing.

I personally think marriage is antiquated in more than a few facets, but I dislike seeing men uphold tradition for tradition sake when it isn't being returned on the woman's end. The self indulgence of most women and their entitlement towards a wedding ceremony is unattractive to me. The guys that defer to a woman's princess ideals when she is not deserving of them is foolhardy.

Based of some reading from several publications it seems around 3-4% of Americans get a courthouse/city hall officiated wedding with growth occurring during the pandemic. I see that as a good thing

 

[RickTheToad]

I am noticing a lot of my remaining single friends get married at the courthouse instead of the traditional route right now. In addition, apparently it is trending right now. I hope Gen Z puts an end to the traditional wedding because I have never in my life saw the appeal in them. I can understand a ceremony, but weddings just seem too extra.



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Cheaper; but still legal with consequences. However, if they are marrying at the court house; at least she's not a gold digger.

 

[corrector]

I had a traditional wedding and think that it undermined and strained the marriage afterwards so that it could not last longer than 2 months and there was no official Honeymoon afterwards. Too much show. Too many people got involved and witnessed the wedding, when I was in terrible financial shape (ie officially had over $ 120k in insecured debt and was just mainly using credit at the time to prop up the existing debt and get into more debt, etc...). Her daughter was involved in the wedding as well.

If I were to ever re-marry again (ie yeah I know, maybe it might snow in Africa too), then I would have no choice but to go the courtroom route. First of all, I don't have a divorce certificate (didn't bother getting one after I divorce, after all, what is the chances of incel-me getting involved with another woman again), and also most of the relatives / friends that would take key-roles (ie best man, groomsmen, etc...) simply are not there like before as people have aged-out or died. Therefore, it would have to be a courthouse if I went there again.

 

[Ricky]

A buddhist monk picked our wedding date. It fell during the middle of the week so a courthouse was the logical choice. Saved me a ton of money