(Toxic) feminine traits men inhabit during relationships

[Gamisch]

I once read that if you spend enough time with a BPD person you'll take over these traits ( so you can communicate "properly "= their language)

What are some of the toxic feminine traits we men subconsciously inhabit when dealing with( nutcase )women for too long? Fire away gentlemen..

 

[LARaiders85]

Insecurity, paranoia, hair trigger temper, toxic positivity.

The biggest two causes of these types of things are:

1. They accuse you of false things so you in turn accuse them when you get the opportunity. Especially re: false cheating accusations (projection usually).

2. They give mixed signals of love, hate, and indifference, so your brain struggles to reconcile, leads to lots of twisted logical reasoning to justify staying.

 

[Gamisch]

I reply to my own thread lol

- wanting something that you cant get. When you know your women isn't right for you ,but you want her because she is emotionally unavailable

 

[Foe]

The biggest thing with my (ex)BPD was a complete lack of boundaries. Infact if a boundary was agreed upon she would as quickly and efficiently as possible try and cross it. This would be done under the blanket of a you did this so Im doing this scenario which often was completely manufactured or at best over inflated.

Some classic examples right at the start of our relationship I went to a mates 40th, she calls me and I don't come immediately home so that gives her permission to call a ex and flirt with him. When I questioned how she can justify it her reply "I thought you were flirting with girls at the party".

Recently she invited my female neighbor over for drinks, got it in her head that I wanted to **** her "how long will it be after we break up will you **** her". I see where this is going and go to bed lock the bedroom door and leave her to sleep on the couch. She locks herself out of the house, goes over to my male neighbors place, drinks until the early hours of the morning and ends up sleeping in his bed. When questions how she can justify it? "You locked me out of the house I had no choice".

This is just a couple of examples but yeah the complete lack of boundaries and justification is probably my biggest issue.

 

[Bigpapa]

1. false cheating accusations (projection usually).

If you get a woman that is jealous for no reason then it means that she is a cheater herself , or just jumps on a new d1ck the next day you brake up ( usually by a stupid argument initiated by her )