"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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TheDarkSaint

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Guys, I'm about read to throw in the towl. I've lost interest, drive and motivation when it comes to dating.


I live in a small town. It has 1,500 people in it. I'm the music teacher. The pay is reasonable, the hours are long, the prestigue is good (they like good concerts here) and I get summers off. I'm very ambitious about my job and I spend a great deal of time working with my kids to improve them so we can have better ensembles. I work 50 - 70 hours a week on average. This is my dream job where I get to do something I love doing in a place where I'm recognized for my talents and lets me exersize my competitivness. I don't plan on moving for another 2-3 years before I go get my Masters.

Because of the small size of the town, there is a limited gene pool of girls even close to my age. There are a couple of 19-22 year olds, but that is getting too young and flakey for me. The nearest town of any real size is 3 hours away.

The thing that is frightening me is that I'm growing acustumed to being alone. I'm starting to prefer it. I've had 3 or 4 gfs in my life and the sex with each was disapointing at best, rotten at worst. I'm loosing drive to even look at porn. I come home from work at 6 pm, play with and walk the dogs, check email, visit some news sites and then go to bed so I can be up by 5 the next morning.

What do you do when your job is the best thing that ever happend to you but it is killing your social life?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Summer is coming and your off right? Sounds like a good time to hit the road and have look around....
 

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TheDarkSaint said:
I'm loosing drive to even look at porn.
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TheDarkSaint said:
What do you do when your job is the best thing that ever happend to you but it is killing your social life?

You have to make a choice. Whats more important to you in your life? Having a career, gettin ahead in the rat race, or looking back at your life, knowing that you had a great time, many memories. At the end of the day, you can always make a good career starting late. It all depends on your goals and priorities in life.

In my early twenties, I worked my butt off on my carreer, 60-80 hours a week, but I also partied the rest of the time to compensate. Then when I was in my late twenties, I said screw it, life isn't only about your career, and I took about a year off, travelled, seen the continent and made some of the most amazing memories that I never even dreamed of.

Its all about what you want out of life. In 30 years to you want to be admiring the truck, RV, house, and pension you got, or do you want to be relaxing at your camp thinking about all the great times you had when you were young.

Whatever you choose, live your life without regrets. I can honestly say I've got none. I've made a lot of mistakes and fvcked up alot, but it was one heck of a ride and I'd do it all the exact same way over again.
 

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DARKSAINT: Clayton, New Mexico? Not meeting too many hotties there? I have two words for you for this Memorial Day weekend: LAKE HAVASU

Go book a flight, it's just one state over.
 

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Thanks for the replies guys. It's nice to hear them.

I'm planning on traveling quite extensivly over the summer. I'm headed to Japan in June and I'll be spending a great deal of time both in Denver and Oklahoma city.


I know I'll have to choose between my job and a social life, it's just difficult to do so when I get so much positive feedback from the job I'm doing here. It's good for my ego as a recovering AFC and it's forcing me to be highly social and dominate with both students and parents.

Has anyone else been in the same situation I have?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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