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Tough situation with a friend

spaceman2001

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This isn't about girls, but a friend. I know it's off-topic but you guys give a lot of great advice. He's a pretty close friend who I've known for about 13 years, we did everything together. But now that he's met some new people from work, he mostly chills out with them the last few years. Never calls, yet when I see him he says there's no problem. What's going on? I hang out with the people he does, but rarely him. It kinda pisses me off. and he lives on the same block as me, lol.

How would you guys handle this?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Look people change all the time.

The same friend that was there 13 years ago is not the same guy you see before you.

If he chooses not to invite you then fvck him. Go find some people who you share interest with and hang around them, but don't hold it against him if he feels that he outgrow you.
 

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Well there was an issue where I accused his girlfriend of taking some stuff from my house, which was a pretty big deal in our social group. He says there's no problem, but I wonder if that's it.
 

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spaceman2001 said:
Well there was an issue where I accused his girlfriend of taking some stuff from my house, which was a pretty big deal in our social group. He says there's no problem, but I wonder if that's it.
You never go directly to a friend's girl and accuse her, she is his extension and you don't need to deal with her directly. You needed to talk to him first about it and see how he would have reacted and how he would have handled this. If he did nothing or supported his girl even though you were right, then fvck him and his girl. Go find some other friends and get out of social groups that don't respect you.

DJD
 
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