Tough Problem Here

[Chicks Just Dig Me]

So, this girl and I are great friends, although we love to flirt back and forth with each other. We are always having fin together, and I really like here. I think she kind of knows this, but still likes to be around me, because I love to make her laugh and see my manliness...

But, all we do is hang around in school. I have not seen her outside of school, nor if she is going out with some of her friends, (mostly girls, a few males that are just friends in which I am positive), she never asks me if I wanna come along...It seems like even though she likes being around me and we flirt back and forth a lot, it seems like she only sees me as an "in school friend." Now, I did not ask for her number yet, but I think I am leaning towards that she does not really like me at all, or she would ask me to hang around with her...

Why is she not asking me if I would like ot hang out after, say after a school dance or after a sporting event...Any reason why?

 

[eminence]

are you kidding me? whos the man in this relationship...you or her? its your job to ask her out. idiot.

 

[Plec07]

Be the man, it's not her decision to make. Next time you see her number close her, phone her up when your bored and tell her to meet you at <place> <time>.
Go there, if she turns up show her a great time and have fun. If she flakes theres only one thing I can say NEXT.

You the man, you make the decisions. The only decision she gets to make is whether she will spend time with you or not. Where you do it, what you do, and where you do it is all up to you.

 

[Chicks Just Dig Me]

Thanks guys. Your right--I am in charge and I make the rules. I asked her to go bowling, and I am waiting to see if she wants to or not. I am hoping she says yes. She actually texted me, so I finally have her number; surprisingly she texted me.

If she gives me a excuse like the weather is too bad (which is true) or something along those lines, is she making up an excuse? I am trying a little C + F which I love to do around her. Hope for the best and I'lll let you know what happens..if we do go or not...

 

[Kev07]

why are you thinking of what excuses she might make ALREADY. you don't even have her # yet.

Just go with it

 

[Chicks Just Dig Me]

Guys,
We did go bowling and we all had a fun time. I was busting on her and her friends all night, mostly her though. I got her number and I prolly wont call her for a week or so, to show I am not too needy of her. I was making her laugh all night, and she was trying to diss me and throw comebacks at me which are a good sign.

Some downsides to the night though--My friend, (who is very trustworthy) heard her and her friend whispering to each other. The girl I like was saying, "Yeah but I don't know..." and thats all he told me he heard. After he told me that, I was kind of bummed out. I hope he is wrong, but he is a good kid so I guess I won't put too much thought into it. Also, when we all left, I hugged her two friends, but when I went to hug her, she stuck out her hand to give me a handshake...I was like "wtf..." and ended up just saying goodbye. A handshake? Are you serious? When she did that, I lightly put on some ****iness to that, and we all said goodbye. which ended my night.

When should I hang out with her again? I was thinking maybe a week or two, although I do see her in school.

 

[SenorSuave]

From the sounds of it, you should be hitting up her friends (if they're hot of course) It sounds like they are more interested, striking a conversation about you, hugs and all. Either way, keep your bases open, you gotta play the field to win the game

 

[Chicks Just Dig Me]

The one I like who did not hug me is the hottest of the 3. The other two aren't so great. I really like the one girl, but I don't think she is very interested in me; but I am having trouble accepting that...I want her to be and I want to make it happen...She has both the personality and looks, which makes her a lot of fun to be around.

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

play the field to win the game

play the whole field, not just the girl you like most. if she sees her friends having a really good time with you, then she might be interested.
remember, getting her number was an accomplishment. but I really don't see why she wanted to give you a handshake... I mean wtf, a hug means nothing right? It's just a simple greeting hello/goodbye.

 

[Chicks Just Dig Me]

Yeah, I did have a few accomplishments with her--
1. I got her number
2. She texted me first, in which I ended it
3. We hung and talked a lot outside of school for the first time

But the handshake at the end wrecked my night. I was like "wtf!" I looked right into her eyes and gave her a ****y look. I was in shock. We had a fun time, but I gotta figure out when to call her again to do something and what to do. Maybe watch a movie with the same people at my house next week. I guess it was a good start. Maybe the "handshake" which I refused to give her, was a blessing in diguise?

Any opinions?

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

I think you're thinking too much. There's not enough evidence that she doesn't like you, there also isn't enough evidence that she does like you.
Keep real cool. Hang out with her/her and her friends/her friends.

Look for more hints, but don't stress over this one girl. I admit I have a bad case of oneitis too, but my oneitis is a ***** for acting completely uninterested in me. She has a right to be a ***** in her view, but In mine, shes an idiot and I want her to see the real me. I gotta get to her friends though to assist my silent expedition.

Gl, and don't ruin your nice polo shirt at dinner tonight. I'm sure your whole family will have a nice crack up if you do though. =P

 

[SenorSuave]

Like i said, play the field. Scope out some other women. At the very least, this should make her more interested. Isn't jealousy wonderful?

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

I would be completely hopeless without it.
I love jealousy<3

Edit: Also I would be completely ho-less