"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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tough call! what would u do fellas?

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ill try to make this as short as possible....

met a girl(7.5)last summer. i work with her in a large company. we made out the night we met. i wasnt in to her back then. she pursued me hardcore, she called me alot,opened up about her feelings etc. the last time she texted me was in december. i started to really like her personality and realized i liked her physically as well. i started texting back and forth with her about a month ago. she would reply to my texts quickly .a mutual friend told me she recently got a boyfriend and moved in with him. a couple weeks ago i called her twice. got her voicemail and no call back. when i see her at work she waves and smiles. should i
a.) ignore her in hopes that down the road she'll breakup with her boyfriend and wonder i she could still have me?
b.) call her again and pursue her and try to win her over.
c.) make casual conversation at work with her.
i would appreciate any advice. thx in advance.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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thx extremely constructive. "try to win her" as in talk to her and call her occasionally to try to attract her.
 

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She ain't giving you the intention she use to because she's smoking another sausage now.

You should have jumped on it when you had the chance and she was sweating you. You could have easily fvcked her.

It's too late now. Meet new chicks
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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yeah guys. but do u think it would be wiser to totally ignore her or flirt with her a little. this way down the road if she breaks up with her boyfriend she'll come my way.
 

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Spin more plates as for this girl let it go be your dj self when you are near her i.e. ****y funny but do not and I mean do not press the issue unless she's all over you like a cheap suit.

She should be out of your mind.

Of course some would say do not hook up with girls you work with because it's just a sexual harassment suit waiting to happen when all things go to hell.
 

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The_411 said:
Spin more plates as for this girl let it go be your dj self when you are near her i.e. ****y funny but do not and I mean do not press the issue unless she's all over you like a cheap suit.

She should be out of your mind.

Of course some would say do not hook up with girls you work with because it's just a sexual harassment suit waiting to happen when all things go to hell.
thx dude. good advice. im gonna go with this and in addition hang out more in bars that she hangs in and have her see me hopefully with other chicks.
 

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connor32 said:
met a girl(7.5)last summer. i work with her in a large company. we made out the night we met. i wasnt in to her back then. she pursued me hardcore, she called me alot,opened up about her feelings etc. the last time she texted me was in december. i started to really like her personality and realized i liked her physically as well. i started texting back and forth with her about a month ago. she would reply to my texts quickly .a mutual friend told me she recently got a boyfriend and moved in with him. a couple weeks ago i called her twice. got her voicemail and no call back. when i see her at work she waves and smiles. should i
1. Don't believe what the friend says, she could be jealous of her

2. Don't phone her anymore until she contacts you

3. If you see her at work at your large company, you say "Hi HB(7.5), how are you? How is work? By the way, I left a few messages on your phone the other day, wondering if you got them?"

If she says "Yes", you have your answer
If she says "No", you bust a move
 

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Let me get this straight!

You had a ship (75% better than other ships) in the dock and you didn't care enough about it to anchor it down. Now, after the ship has sailed away with its new Captain, you're swimming after it trying to figure out ways to get on board in order to retrieve it.

Okay, now without a metaphoric analogy. This is a classic example of how a lot of human attraction interactions between male and female are ebbed. She was immensely attracted to you but it didn't matter because you had the power. Now that her attraction for you has detracted, your desire for her accrued uncontrollably.

Face it! You called it off; she found someone else; now you want her.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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connor32 said:
ill try to make this as short as possible....

met a girl(7.5)last summer. i work with her in a large company. we made out the night we met. i wasnt in to her back then. she pursued me hardcore, she called me alot,opened up about her feelings etc. the last time she texted me was in december. i started to really like her personality and realized i liked her physically as well. i started texting back and forth with her about a month ago. she would reply to my texts quickly .a mutual friend told me she recently got a boyfriend and moved in with him. a couple weeks ago i called her twice. got her voicemail and no call back. when i see her at work she waves and smiles. should i
a.) ignore her in hopes that down the road she'll breakup with her boyfriend and wonder i she could still have me?
b.) call her again and pursue her and try to win her over.
c.) make casual conversation at work with her.
i would appreciate any advice. thx in advance.
You should never have to wait for someone to make a move like this. If you think things can happen in the future, keep talking to her at work, but don't push the issue. She does have a boyfriend and you don't want to end up getting into some controversy with him.

But like many others will tell you, surround yourself with other women and continue to date. This, in the end, will benefit you more than anything you can do to up her attraction of you.
 

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keep teasing, flirting and mess around with this girl and she'll come around. If you want to the quick lay then use boyfriend destroying tactics. etc. and follow through the standard pua methodology. I'd do my first suggestion just because it's more fun. :p
 
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