Totally pussed out last night

[ElGuapo]

I had a girl over. She made pop corn and we watched a movie. The whole time I had my arm around her. I was rubbing her shoulder. I was leaning up against her. I was stroking her hair. I was even rubbing the inside of her thigh. At no point did she seem to reject any of these advances. I was looking her right in the eye.

I knew I was getting a green light. But I don't know why. I just couldn't pull the trigger. I knew that I should make a move, but I didn't. Something kept holding me back. So I just kept talking. Logically, I knew what I had to do, but I just couldn't do it. I'm sure this girl was really dissapointed. She stuck around until almost 3 AM on a weekday. I wonder if she thinks I'm gay?

Honestly, I am so disappointed in myself. All this time, I've been frustrated about my lack of success with women. And yet here I was with a blue eyed, blonde haired beauty in the privacy of my apartment. I had all kinds of kino going. And I just choked......

I trust the things I've learned here. I believe in it. I've seen it work with my own eyes. Yet when it came down to it, I just couldn't do it

I am a little shocked. I set everything but I just couldn't close. Has anyone ever experienced anything like this before?

 

[Waking Up]

Next time remember Nike.

 

[Unbridled_Phoenix]

Next time remember Nike.

So if he is having trouble getting his nerve up, he should open a sweat shop in Malaysia? jk

Just do it.

 

[DonkeyPunch]

Yeh i believe it's a common fear amongst first timers. I've felt it b4.

 

[Scars]

Escalation is scary at the beginning, but once you get over it you find how simple things really get. The only difference between guys who get layed and guys who don't is that they ESCALATE. You are a man with needs, there is no shame in trying. I used to have this crutch where if I was with a girl that seemed really cute and innocent I would almost feel bad for even trying to have sex with her. Fvck that! Seriously, if it's not you then it's going to be somebody else, so go balls deep in that chick and claim your territory. This became apparently obvious to me one night when I was with a cute little virgin girl. She wasn't my girlfriend, but we had talked a lot. I did not expect her to have sex with me, at least not until we were dating. One night we found ourselves in a heated make out session at her house. I decided to test the limits a little bit so I slid my hands up her shirt. She didn't say a word. I moved my hands up furthered and cupped her breasts. Still nothing. Shocked, I removed my hands from where they were and put them back on her face, but later on I was thinking, nah fvck that I'm going to go for the gold. I then slid my hands under her bra and felt her up. Then down the pants, then came off the pants, and so on.. Seriously, there is no shame in trying. If you get turned down it's not the end of the world. Also it could just be a sh!t test. You don't know how many times I've heard "Uh, I don't think we should be doing this" and then waking up completely butt-ass naked to her the next day. Do what feels right and do it the moment you think about it, don't hesitate or give yourself too much time to think otherwise you're head is going to get quickly filled up with doubt. Take action.

 

[ElGuapo]

Well, it looks like I didn't kill the attraction just yet. She's coming over again tonight. Wish me luck!

 

[CaptainJ]

Get some wine out for both of you to calm the mood, then get your d1ck out a pump the sh1t out of her.

 

[Allurre]

You have to start by getting into the habit of escalating without hesitation first.

Once you get used to 'pulling that trigger' which you didn't, it becomes almost effortless the second time. You'll eventually grow numb to the feelings of fear to make the move.

Here's another mental trick. Think of kissing, as rubbing her shoulders, then the intensity of fear will diminish.

 

[ElGuapo]

I'm pleased to report success! So I had her over again last night. This time she was dressed in some really tight short shorts and a revealing tank top. We were watching another movie. I was totally feeling up her legs and her thighs. The kino was even stronger this time.

When I finally went for it I gave her a bit of a hug and put my forehead against hers. Not only did she not resist, I was very surprised by her response! I was going for a peck on the lips at first. But she immediately gave me a whole lot of tongue. The first kiss was a very wet makeout session. And this is one of those "innocent" types.

She said she was waiting for that. Needless to say, I had a good time last night.

Thanks for the help guys.

 

[ChalengeGuyFan]

Pfaa, I'm going through something similar, but have yet to kick the fear out.
Shytty stuff.

 

[Lexington]

Pfaa, I'm going through something similar, but have yet to kick the fear out.
Shytty stuff.

Well, I managed to kick the fear out. If I can, there's no reason you can't. In fact the girl I was referring to in the original post left just a few minutes ago after a booty call

Honestly, what I've realized is that if he girl is letting you touch her and feel her up, she has already made up her mind and given you the green light. There's no need to look for a "perfect moment." In fact, if you wait too long, she'll lose interest.

I've been talking to this girl for a few months now. And honestly, I realize now that I could have banged her ages ago. As soon as a girl lets you start putting your hands on her without objecting, get ready to bang.

 

[Veridin]

I'm pleased to report success! So I had her over again last night. This time she was dressed in some really tight short shorts and a revealing tank top. We were watching another movie. I was totally feeling up her legs and her thighs. The kino was even stronger this time.

When I finally went for it I gave her a bit of a hug and put my forehead against hers. Not only did she not resist, I was very surprised by her response! I was going for a peck on the lips at first. But she immediately gave me a whole lot of tongue. The first kiss was a very wet makeout session. And this is one of those "innocent" types.

She said she was waiting for that. Needless to say, I had a good time last night.

Thanks for the help guys.

You did well, young padawan! You just leveled up. Put your points in Seduction and Kino.

 

[SteR]

high five!

 

[Vice]

Even though you wussied out the first time, you got her hot and bothered, and she probably wondered that night why you didn't get farther.

So it worked FOR you that time. You unintentionally built up ALOT of anticipation. This drives them wild.

The second time you said she wore something sexier, which proves that she WAS indeed thinking why you didn't go further.

Sounds like you're pretty inexperienced. I'm not exactly experienced myself, but I can tell you that it's only going to get easier to physically escalate as time goes on. Just don't repress the sexual beast within yourself.