Totally Bummed Out

[collegeEJ]

What's up guys?

I just transfered universities this semester and everything started great. As early as a week ago, I already had a really good looking friend with benefits from my new school, a pretty girl I was gaming that I felt was interested in me, and I got another girl's number I met at a restaurant and was pretty sure she was interested.

Now things have really gone down hill. The friend with benefits is now trying to work out things with her boyfriend, the girl I was gaming seems to have completely lost interest(and bailed on me today). And finally, I called the girl last night I met at the restaurant after texting each other back and forth and she didn't answer or call me back.

Dang, it sucks how things seem to be going perfect and that nothing can go wrong and within two days, it seems I've struck out on all of them.

I try to do what is said over and over on this forum and not be needy or show too much interest, but it seems I always start off hot, girls dig me, then I just screw it all up some how. I really don't know how this always happens to me.

Any words of advice? This has really bummed me out and made me lose a lot of the confidence I built up over the last few weeks.

 

[KontrollerX]

When everything goes wrong that could possibly go wrong I just have a good laugh and go get a drink and plan my turn around.

Maybe thats all you need too.

Also for future relationship attempts you have to not be so focused on technique but rather internalize what you have learned here meaning that you trust your gut instinct to act towards a girl in a way you feel you can get away with that would work with her.

So if you feel like calling a girl more than once a day do so but only after your gut instinct has given you a feeling that she would welcome such an action.

You have to trust your gut, your inner feelings moreso than rely on routine A leading to routine B.

 

[roman]

One thing I've learned and ingrained in my skull is that it's a numbers game with women. Don't be so hung up on these two women who you "struck out" with. In the development of your game you'll eventually evolve the perception that you never "strike out" with a girl. *They* are the ones at bat who have the potential to either score a run with you or strike out. And if you strike one of them out, there's a slew of them waiting for a chance at bat. You need to change your perception of yourself so that you truly believe you are a prize to be won.