Totally blown off - How to punish her?

[paymon]

This girl called me up this afternoon and we wanted to hang out (first time outing with her). She said to call at 10, I did and got no answer. She called back 30 minutes later saying shes going clubbing. I played it off and told her to go for it, and when i tried to part she said how come you try to end the call so quick.... I said I don't but theres nothing left to talk about.

How're you gonna make plans and then totally act like they dont even exist? The weird part is that this girl was all over me, great kino, eye contact, etc, etc

How do I punish her

 

[tristan22]

By nexting her!

 

[Bradshaw]

This is a standard issue sh1t test. If you let her disrespect you - you fail.

Here is what I would have done.

her: I am going clubbing with friends
me: You couldn't have told me earlier. Did you not realise that my time is valuable?
her: well... sorry
me: yeah, but could you do me a favour?
her: yeah
me: you have my number right?
her: yes
me: well can you make sure that you delete it. (click)

 

[Sasha]

Maybe she wantet you to join her but you didn't pick on that one and maybe tonite she is all dissapointet and sh_t..

 

[ketostix]

I agree it was a sh!t test. But there's got to be a better way than nexting or burning bridges. Is telling her to delete your number and appearing upset the best way to respond to this test? Girls do this over and over so we can't just next them all. You can't get too upset, but you can't let her disrespect your time unchallenged. We need a standard issue response for this standard issue sh!t test.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Simple. Approach this like a mature adult. Ask her, "did you forget about our plans?"

Whatever her answer, say something along these lines:

"I set aside time to accomodate our plans when I could have been doing something else with other friends. What you're doing now is very selfish. When you learn to respect the time of others, give me a call. Until then, I don't want to hear from you again. Bye."

 

[paymon]

I'm just not going to call her ass again..... and if she calls me, I'll be sure to be busy

 

[Sasha]

Originally posted by paymon
I'm just not going to call her ass again..... and if she calls me, I'll be sure to be busy

Thats the way of a DJ!



Sasha

 

[Bradshaw]

Originally posted by ketostix
I agree it was a sh!t test. But there's got to be a better way than nexting or burning bridges. Is telling her to delete your number and appearing upset the best way to respond to this test? Girls do this over and over so we can't just next them all. You can't get too upset, but you can't let her disrespect your time unchallenged. We need a standard issue response for this standard issue sh!t test.

This is just the way that I handle it. I view something like this as disrespecting me and my time. I do not even want to be with a girl like that.

2 things may happen.

1.) If she isn't that into you, or is a flakey person, good ridance. You will hopefuly never hear from her again.

2.) She is into you. This is a sh1t-test. She is TESTING you to see if you are man enough to have a spine and not let her walk all over you. She wants a man. However, she has to test you to see if you are man enought for her. If this is the case, calling her on her bullsh1t means that you pass, and she is happy. She will come crawling back. Now you are in the power seat.

 

[paymon]

I didnt call her out on her BS, but I did cut off the call pretty quickly afterwards, i know she'll call back later, specially after the incredible time i showed her last week

 

[tristan22]

Listen, when you stop calling her, she'll get the hint