"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Total Reproductive Value (Chart)

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This shows reproductive value by age. Note we can never compare to a young girl in her prime.

This is a scaled SMV graph, showing how women are intrinsically more valuable (reproductive wise) in their prime years than men in his prime years.

Note how at age 30 the paths briefly cross as her SMV plummets.

Still, it's good to be a guy!

 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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This shows reproductive value by age. Note we can never compare to a young girl in her prime.

This is a scaled SMV graph, showing how women are intrinsically more valuable (reproductive wise) in their prime years than men in his prime years.

Note how at age 30 the paths briefly cross as her SMV plummets.

Still, it's good to be a guy!

And this is why the world is run by stupid little girls who do drugs all day and grew up playing Pokemon.
 

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As you can see, to match up peak SMV, women who look about 23 should date men who look about 38.
 

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Note that 21 year old women are superior to men at every age - HENCE THEY ARE EXPENSIVE. Imagine that. Paying more to get more.

Also note the absurdity of expecting 21 year old men to keep 21 year old women happy (and the absurdity of 48 year old women keeping 48 year old men happy). Yet certain individuals are pushing for exactly these scenarios.
 

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When was the last time you hung out with a college age 22 year old girl that wasn't one of your Russian models/strippers? They know nothing, talk about themselves 24/7, and I get annoyed so fast with them. I'm 30 back in school for engineering so I know this. It's literally trying to find a needle in a haystack of 22 year olds that are even worth a crap.

Now a 38 year old trying to date a 22 year old? The maturity levels are completely different and life experiences are way different. Theoretically yes the SMV's peak at these 2 different ages, but theoretical is still not practical. Most 21 year old don't want to date a guy their dads age.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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The assumption of the peak value of the most valued 21 year old female being twice that of the most valuable 40 year old male is a nonsense. That's the skewed world view of the gynocentric West talking; multiplied by the over-valuation of women by men, across the marketplace

The decline of female value is also probably premature in this figure. Women are able to breed longer latterly, and most certainly aren't anywhere near 35% fertility at age 35 - Duchess of Cambridge just announced third pregnancy, aged 35, funnily enough.

If anything, the female value trace is probably more similar to that of the male trace in today's society, though they still peak and begin to decline sooner.
 

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When was the last time you hung out with a college age 22 year old girl that wasn't one of your Russian models/strippers? They know nothing, talk about themselves 24/7, and I get annoyed so fast with them. I'm 30 back in school for engineering so I know this.
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Not including the one I lived with in NYC?

Did you really just attempt to disqualify 22 year old Russian looking models from the US? Wtf?

I've dated 10 girls about that age this year alone. I enjoy them. When they fall for you, you get 6 months of bliss. Then they leave, but always return. Always.

Teachers, students, bartenders, waitresses. And strippers.

My last girl's dad is 60, not 38.

At age 30 I dated 18 year old women. At 41 19 year old women. At 46 20 year old women. At 47 21 year old women.
 
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When was the last time you hung out with a college age 22 year old girl that wasn't one of your Russian models/strippers? They know nothing, talk about themselves 24/7, and I get annoyed so fast with them. I'm 30 back in school for engineering so I know this. It's literally trying to find a needle in a haystack of 22 year olds that are even worth a crap.

Now a 38 year old trying to date a 22 year old? The maturity levels are completely different and life experiences are way different. Theoretically yes the SMV's peak at these 2 different ages, but theoretical is still not practical. Most 21 year old don't want to date a guy their dads age.
Also the fact that females have no intrinsic value other than their bodies.

Men can build houses, etc.

The world makes no sense.
 

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CMNILS87, most people don't improve their conversational skills an awful lot. Men and women.

The 20 year old woman that is worth having a conversation with is the same woman (plus baggage) at 40. If you're going to qualify women based on conversation skill and interests, that alone will probably leave less than 20%. At any age.
 

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Not including the one I lived with in NYC?

Did you really just attempt to disqualify 22 year old Russian looking models from the US? Wtf?

I've dated 10 girls about that age this year alone. I enjoy them. When they fall for you, you get 6 months of bliss. Then they leave, but always return. Always.

Teachers, students, bartenders, waitresses. And strippers.

My last girl's dad is 60, not 38.

At age 30 I dated 18 year old women. At 41 19 year old women. At 46 20 year old women. At 47 21 year old women.
I can guarantee if you asked any girl on the street that was early 20's whether she'd date a guy that is 40. 9/10 would say no. The stigma attached with that is too much for young chicks. They want social circles to hang out in, the only way to get that is dating guys their age or a little older I'd say 7-8 years older at max.

The whole point of SoSuave is to enrich our lives, pick out decent women to date, and crush it at life. How is dating 20 year olds that fall in love with you in 3 months, break up with you, chase you around, come back for sex, leave again. I'm totally disqualifying them. They don't know what they want.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I can guarantee if you asked any girl on the street that was early 20's whether she'd date a guy that is 40. 9/10 would say no. The stigma attached with that is too much for young chicks. They want social circles to hang out in, the only way to get that is dating guys their age or a little older I'd say 7-8 years older at max.

The whole point of SoSuave is to enrich our lives, pick out decent women to date, and crush it at life. How is dating 20 year olds that fall in love with you in 3 months, break up with you, chase you around, come back for sex, leave again. I'm totally disqualifying them. They don't know what they want.
So I'm overachieving. That's why I rule.
 

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@CMNILS87 - it was awful! While you were in the bathroom, your 39 year old girlfriend hijacked your SoSuave account and posted all this crap about how 21 year old women should date 21 year old men (the very week bigneil dated TWO 21 year old women, at age 47). Quick! Call them prostitutes even though he didn't have sex with both of them!!
 

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Women have far more intrinsic value than their bodies, and most the men I know who build houses for a living are pretty dumb on quite a lot of levels.
I knew it! You're a girl. Who else calls a 96 rated girl an escort except an old fat woman?
 
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Men build houses with their bodies and intellect

Women build bodies and raise children with their intellect.

Some women could build a house too.

Women have far more intrinsic value than their bodies, and most the men I know who build houses for a living are pretty dumb on quite a lot of levels. No offence to any housebuilders but you don't get much conversation on a building site.
What more intrinsic value do they have other than their theoretical capacity to make a good mother?
 
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I can guarantee if you asked any girl on the street that was early 20's whether she'd date a guy that is 40. 9/10 would say no. The stigma attached with that is too much for young chicks. They want social circles to hang out in, the only way to get that is dating guys their age or a little older I'd say 7-8 years older at max.

The whole point of SoSuave is to enrich our lives, pick out decent women to date, and crush it at life. How is dating 20 year olds that fall in love with you in 3 months, break up with you, chase you around, come back for sex, leave again. I'm totally disqualifying them. They don't know what they want.
There are some nice looking men in their 40s and up but rarely will you see them with girls in their early 20s, even though they are attractive enough to date someone that young. I think there's some stigma on both sides, with good looking older men not even attempting to date younger women.
If a young woman and older man are just looking for causal fun I think it could be an awesome experience for both to explore something different from what they are probably used to around dating, social life, secs. But when it comes to marriage and family, young women typically chose men closer to their own age for the real relationship stuff.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Can't see how dudes at 50 have only slightly less SMV than me when I observe virtually no 24 year old women dating 50 year old guys
This comment stood out to me since I am 56. I've been out of the game for awhile, so I don't have the personal experience of a guy in his 50s in the dating world. I've known guys in their 50s who bang 18 year olds though, so it's not like it's impossible. But it's certainly more common for the younger kids to get together.

I couldn't help but notice that according to the chart, supposedly I have the same reproductive value of a 24 year old. Of course, the thing that is hard to ignore here is that a 24 year old's value is on the uprise, while a 56 year old is in decline. In any case, I'm not sure the graph is set by who is dating 24 year olds. I would think that a 56 year old man has a wider age range of women he could date, even if not all of them are at peak fertile value. It's true that a 24 year old girl will always be physically appealing to men of any age, but that doesn't necessarily mean that a guy in his 50s will seek to date one. A 24 year old girl would be just starting her career, be looking to party a lot, and be at a completely different point in her life than I am. Sure, she might look great, but what would we have in common? I think that tends to become more important as a guy gets older.

Some women could build a house too.
Ever seen the survival show Alone? They put different people out in the wilderness to see how they survive. This past season there were 12 contestants, I think, only one of whom was female. She by far built the best and most intricate shelter. Most of the guys simply had a tarp laying over a stick. Women can be capable when they want to be. But of course, generally speaking, men are more likely to be interested in such things, which is why 11 out of the 12 were males in the first place.

I can guarantee if you asked any girl on the street that was early 20's whether she'd date a guy that is 40. 9/10 would say no.
I think that is true. But I also think it is true that if you place a high value man in front of them (who just happens to be 40), they will forget all about their age reservations as if they never existed.
 
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