"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Saw this on TV the other day, I thought it was interesting. Yeah, it's probably just your regular scripted reality show BS, but that doesn't affect the point.

Here's a clip where the girl and the guy have been dating for two years, he broke up with her, and she was having trouble moving on. One thing that was bugging her was that she didn't know why he broke up with her. What I like about this is the mature way he handled it. He explained it to her openly, honestly, and directly, so that could help her move on.

If this had been SoSuave, I have no doubt everyone would have been trying to mess with the girl's head, trying to "nuke her hamster". I far prefer this much more mature approach. The pertinent area of the video is the 1:20 to 1:50 mark:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GKfWQn43uYk
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Mauser96 said:
Not everyone. My GF and I are considering parting ways, due mostly to distance, work scheds, and realizing we are maybe too different. We had a convo just like this a month ago. Except it was 1.5 hours, not 1.5 minutes.

Problem was, we had a vacation planned together , with our kids. So we agreed to go as "dating" and that is how it has been left. My guess is...we will part ways soon. No hard feelings, just too many obstacles to overcome.
Sorry to hear that, Mauser, especially with the kids involved. It makes a difference, too, if the girl in question has done something to disrespect you. When that's not the case (as in your situation), I see no reason to play some sort of alpha/PUA game with her just so you can "win".
 

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zekko,

Do you have WWE Network? I watched Royal Rumble in January and FastLane here tonight, can't wait for Wrestlemania to see Brock Lesnar again!!
 

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
I've never heard anyone on this site tell someone to dump a girl and then nuke her hamster when the girl didn't do anything wrong
I think if you read the general forum there is a tendency there to want to nuke a girl's hamster just because you can. It's a pretty young crowd over there, and many want to "live on" in her memory as some sort of unobtainable alpha male. Plus a lot of guys think that every woman deserves it, just because they are women, and all women are b!tches, so there you go. Do you really deny that such an attitude exists?

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Do you have WWE Network?
No, I have a revulsion against things you have to subscribe to. Looks like a good deal though, especially if you are the type who orders PPVs.
 

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Probably going a little off-topic here but I have to say that guy pretty much embodies everything I consider 'alpha'.

The guy's clearly takes care of himself (no surprise considering his job) but the way he carries himself and interacts with that woman are both admirable.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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zekko said:
Saw this on TV the other day, I thought it was interesting. Yeah, it's probably just your regular scripted reality show BS, but that doesn't affect the point.

Here's a clip where the girl and the guy have been dating for two years, he broke up with her, and she was having trouble moving on. One thing that was bugging her was that she didn't know why he broke up with her. What I like about this is the mature way he handled it. He explained it to her openly, honestly, and directly, so that could help her move on.

If this had been SoSuave, I have no doubt everyone would have been trying to mess with the girl's head, trying to "nuke her hamster". I far prefer this much more mature approach. The pertinent area of the video is the 1:20 to 1:50 mark:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GKfWQn43uYk
"You want us to live happily ever after........I'M AFRAID I'VE GOT SOME BAD NEWS!!!"
 

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I notice she keeps looking at the camera at critical moments... Like when he's telling her why he broke up with her, and then when he's telling her what a "great girl" she is.

That's always the most important thing to women.. how they come off to their peers. The biggest pain of a breakup to women is the stigma with her peers.
 

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
I've never heard anyone on this site tell someone to dump a girl and then nuke her hamster when the girl didn't do anything wrong
Serious question: are you on medication?
 

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Social_Leper said:
Are you implying what he is saying is untrue?
I'm actually implying that PairPlusRoyalFlush is delusional, and I'm wondering what the cause is.
 

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
Yes I utterly deny that the attitude of dumping a girl through no fault of her own and nuking her hamster for no reason other than sheer malice exists.
Maybe I'm wrong about the "dumping the girl through no fault of her own" part (there's really not many guys dumping girls on this site - either they aren't in a relationship to begin with, or the girls dump them). But certainly many of the young guys on the general forum enjoy nuking the hamster for no reason other than they can, or because they want to make an impression. It's not really malicious so much as a "women don't care about us, so why should we care about them" attitude.

One very common piece of advice I see here is to never give a straight answer to a woman's question. Either evade the question to increase your mystery, answer with a ****y/funny response, or agree & amplify.

I'm not even saying this is bad, necessarily. But if you haven't seen anything like the above, we're not reading the same forum. My point was that I liked the mature way Barrett handled the discussion, as opposed to the more juvenile "come off as a bad@ss player" advice you usually see around here.

Moy_1974 said:
I'M AFRAID I'VE GOT SOME BAD NEWS!!!
Yep, lol.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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