"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Torn labrum...

semag

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Back in January, I dislocated my left shoulder really bad while snowboarding - popped it all the way out (falling backwards, hand behind me) and had to get taken down by the ski patrol. The emergency room doctor got it back in and did x-rays, and luckily I didn't break anything. Sling + vicodin for about a week, and no lifting.

I couldn't stay out of the gym for too long, but took it real easy for that quarter of school, only getting really back into heavier lifting around march or so. I had a doctor's appointment with an orthopedist (although his ability is questioned by a couple of people I've talked to) and he had me go get an open MRI (with space on the sides, not an enclosed tube).

After the results of the MRI, the doctor said I had a torn labrum, and that the outpatient arthroscopic surgery is not an emergency, but probably should be done.

As I'm graduating from college soon, I'm going to be dropped from my mom's health insurance, and thus I'll need to get it taken care of by June if that's in my plans. Have any of you guys, being lifters and athletic, had the same thing happen? And if so, any recommendations, or length that it put you out of commission, or should i get a second opinion??? I'd appreciate your thoughts. Thanks.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Rehabilitation

After surgery, you will need to keep your shoulder in a sling for three to four weeks. Your physician will also prescribe gentle, passive, pain-free range-of-motion exercises. When the sling is removed, you will need to do motion and flexibility exercises and gradually start to strengthen your biceps. Athletes can usually begin doing sports-specific exercises after six weeks, although it will be three to four months before the shoulder is fully healed.
Looked it up on google for you. I couldn't advise you on the second opinion, but it might be worth it. Is it actually hurting you at the moment?
 

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thanks wescott.

I actually saw that site earlier, and i'm still interested in people who have actually had the injury/surgery.

In terms of pain, no it doesn't hurt. Ok, i get a little tweak sometimes on CGBP or shoulder press, but that's pretty much always been there with some loose shoulder joints. I squat/dead/bench back at my normal weights, to failure and such, although if it's a day when it feels funny, i take it easy.

The doctor said that the labrum actually just kinda acts as a cup around the shoulder ball, that the shoulder ball is up against a semi-flat surface, and that doesn't give too much stability, so the labrum is a curved area that provides the horizontal and vertical stability for the shoulder joint.
 

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I tore the labrum in the back of both of my shoulders playing high school football.

Never got the surgery, and I'm glad. Yes, sometimes my shoulders are uncomfortable, but I have heard plenty of stories about people that get shoulder surgery and still have discomfort. After a few months I could go back to throwing things, and can now throw a baseball like I used to when I was a pitcher, and lift without it bothering me.

I'm not going to tell you whether to get it or not. All I can tell you is that I didn't get it and don't feel sorry for it.
 
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