RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
Stop Chasing Happiness: Your state of mind is a by-product of a successful life, not the purpose. I know so many people that happiness is the goal... and when they are not happy, they make foolish decisions in an effort to get there. It is a path to emotional decision making, and more often than not if you do something to attain short term happiness, other things in your life will go sideways.
Some people will quit their jobs because they are not 'happy', when the real problem isn't the 'job', it's what you can do to make money because that is your skill set. A better solution is to train yourself to have more options. We all live in a world where we need money, and often it's a better course of action to suck it up and keep working in a job we might hate, because the alternative could be misery. In contrast, you might be doing something that makes you happy, but the rest of your life is downward spiraling hell hole. It should be all about being the very best version of yourself you can... and happiness will be the consequence.
Some guys will be in un-happy marriages, and I really feel for these guys because I've been there... but if you think having affairs to get a little short term happiness is the solution (assuming your spouse isn't going to be okay with this... there are some married women that don't care and are fine with ignoring this, but remember, women can turn on a dime and one day she is fine with turning a blind eye, and the next day she's taking all your sh1t, and your kids, in family courts). A better solution is to keep it in your pants, and either try to make it work (which really isn't anything you can control) or just bite the bullet and get divorced. Trust me... it is MUCH easy to unwind from a marriage when you do not have a track record of infidelity. My brother is a perfect example... I love him, but he was a moron... while he was still married, he was living with another woman, posting that sh1t all over social media... All that did was aggravate the situation, ended up with him having to pay more spousal support, and just a couple of months ago his ex is suing him for extended spousal support. All this because he handed her ammunition.
Don't chase 'happiness': shape your life so that the possibility that happiness might happen. The best path to happiness is discipline, I know it seems counter intuitive but it is true.
Some people will quit their jobs because they are not 'happy', when the real problem isn't the 'job', it's what you can do to make money because that is your skill set. A better solution is to train yourself to have more options. We all live in a world where we need money, and often it's a better course of action to suck it up and keep working in a job we might hate, because the alternative could be misery. In contrast, you might be doing something that makes you happy, but the rest of your life is downward spiraling hell hole. It should be all about being the very best version of yourself you can... and happiness will be the consequence.
Some guys will be in un-happy marriages, and I really feel for these guys because I've been there... but if you think having affairs to get a little short term happiness is the solution (assuming your spouse isn't going to be okay with this... there are some married women that don't care and are fine with ignoring this, but remember, women can turn on a dime and one day she is fine with turning a blind eye, and the next day she's taking all your sh1t, and your kids, in family courts). A better solution is to keep it in your pants, and either try to make it work (which really isn't anything you can control) or just bite the bullet and get divorced. Trust me... it is MUCH easy to unwind from a marriage when you do not have a track record of infidelity. My brother is a perfect example... I love him, but he was a moron... while he was still married, he was living with another woman, posting that sh1t all over social media... All that did was aggravate the situation, ended up with him having to pay more spousal support, and just a couple of months ago his ex is suing him for extended spousal support. All this because he handed her ammunition.
Don't chase 'happiness': shape your life so that the possibility that happiness might happen. The best path to happiness is discipline, I know it seems counter intuitive but it is true.