Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
DonSonnySagliani
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Beating Them at Their Own Game
By KAREEM FAHIM
Published: January 3, 2006
There is a small cafe on Morris Park Avenue in the Bronx where Albanian soap operas play on a large-screen television set. It is the Cafe Roma, and an uneasy quiet hangs in the air.
Federal Bureau of Investigation
Alex Rudaj, outside Jimbo's Bar in Astoria, Queens, on April 15, 2003. Authorities say he runs the Corporation, an Albanian group that they believe is trying to become New York City's sixth mob family.
The cigarette smoke is thick, and stacks of playing cards lie unused on the bar. The bartender, a sallow giant with a mustache, plays chess between serving espressos and sugar-sweetened snacks. The bartender will not talk about it, but the authorities say the Cafe Roma was the headquarters of the Corporation, a violent, up-and-coming gang that had a bold objective: to become New York's sixth crime family, one headed not by Italian-Americans but by Albanian immigrants.
Beginning in the 1990's, the Corporation, led by a man named Alex Rudaj, established ties with established organized crime figures including members of the Gambino crime family, the authorities say. Then, through negotiations or in armed showdowns, the Albanians struck out on their own, daring to battle the Luchese and Gambino families for territory in Queens, the Bronx and Westchester County, prosecutors say.
During one of these confrontations, in August 2001 at an Astoria gambling parlor called Soccer Fever, Mr. Rudaj and at least 14 of his men served notice of their intentions to an associate of the Gambino family who ran the club, prosecutors contend in court documents.
Brandishing guns, one of Mr. Rudaj's men overturned gambling tables, another grabbed money, and a third pistol-whipped a patron, the authorities said.
"Gentlemen, the game is over," one of Mr. Rudaj's men told patrons playing barbout, a dice game. These details and more have emerged during the trial of Mr. Rudaj and five other men in Federal District Court in Manhattan. A jury is now deliberating charges against them, including racketeering, attempted murder, extortion, loan-sharking and gambling.
The defense lawyers have called the government's claims exaggerated, and although they concede that the six men conducted gambling operations, the lawyers deny that their clients belonged to a criminal organization that used violence and extortion to maintain its network of profitable gambling interests, as prosecutors have said. A verdict is possible this week.
However the case turns out, federal investigators say that the accusations against the Rudaj organization provide further proof of a phenomenon they had expected since the breakup of Yugoslavia: the growing sophistication of Balkan gangs, including the Albanian crime groups.
The Albanian groups are long established in Europe's organized crime landscape, where they are known to traffic in humans and narcotics. In this country, investigators say, the numbers of such gangs are still unknown but are likely to be concentrated in several states where Albanians have settled in the past few decades, including New York, New Jersey and Pennsylvania.
Only a tiny fraction of Albanian immigrants actually belong to criminal gangs, investigators say, adding that they start by stealing from their own communities. The more sophisticated and daring of the groups go on to more profitable and violent work, often as low-level enforcers for established crime families.
"La Cosa Nostra has used these guys like they used the Westies in the past," said Matt Heron, the head of the F.B.I.'s organized crime unit in New York, referring to the Irish-American gang that worked with the Mafia in New York in the 70's and 80's. "If you're an up-and-coming criminal enterprise and the old hands are using you to facilitate their activities, you're going to learn from watching and adapt your style to what you see in those gangs," he said.
The Albanian groups have also taken advantage of changes in the organized crime world. "One thing the Albanians and the other so-called ethnic organized crime groups have in their favor is the Mafia's decision to shift away from murder and outright violence," said Jerry Capeci, a columnist who writes about organized crime on his Web site, ganglandnews.com.
The rougher stuff has fallen to the Albanian gangs, said Tom Metz, a senior investigator with the F.B.I. "They are more prone to violence and activities like bookmaking and murder," he said.
Ethnic bonds have traditionally been important to the gangs, and outsiders rarely play central roles, said Esther Bacon, an intelligence analyst with the F.B.I. who studies the Balkan groups. Because of this, the gangs have been hard to infiltrate, law enforcement officials said. "They're like the old Sicilians," said one investigator, who spoke on the condition of anonymity because he is not authorized to speak with reporters. "They don't roll, and they don't cooperate," he said.
The Corporation operated differently, and in the network of outsiders it did business with - including Italians and Greeks - investigators found informants who agreed to wear secret recording devices, law enforcement officials said.
On those tapes and in surveillance photos, there are glimpses of the bravado that prosecutors say typifies the Corporation. In some of the conversations, prosecutors say, Mr. Rudaj describes his plans to take over Astoria from the Luchese crime family. In others, Corporation members describe beatings they participated in. Surveillance photos show Mr. Rudaj and his associates at the wake of John Gotti.
In court, jurors heard evidence of another gangland showdown between Mr. Rudaj and a Gambino leader. It happened at a gas station in New Jersey, a few days before the fight at Soccer Fever. Arnold Squitieri, then the acting boss of the Gambino family, had sought a meeting with Mr. Rudaj, prosecutors said.
At Mr. Squitieri's signal, about 30 of his men appeared, carrying bats, guns and other weapons, but the Albanians were ready. One of Mr. Rudaj's men put a gun to Mr. Squitieri's head and another pointed a shotgun at a gas pump, threatening to blow everyone up unless Mr. Squitieri's men put down their guns, according to prosecutors.
Mr. Squitieri backed down.
Alan Feuer contributed reporting for this article.
By KAREEM FAHIM
Published: January 3, 2006
There is a small cafe on Morris Park Avenue in the Bronx where Albanian soap operas play on a large-screen television set. It is the Cafe Roma, and an uneasy quiet hangs in the air.
Federal Bureau of Investigation
Alex Rudaj, outside Jimbo's Bar in Astoria, Queens, on April 15, 2003. Authorities say he runs the Corporation, an Albanian group that they believe is trying to become New York City's sixth mob family.
The cigarette smoke is thick, and stacks of playing cards lie unused on the bar. The bartender, a sallow giant with a mustache, plays chess between serving espressos and sugar-sweetened snacks. The bartender will not talk about it, but the authorities say the Cafe Roma was the headquarters of the Corporation, a violent, up-and-coming gang that had a bold objective: to become New York's sixth crime family, one headed not by Italian-Americans but by Albanian immigrants.
Beginning in the 1990's, the Corporation, led by a man named Alex Rudaj, established ties with established organized crime figures including members of the Gambino crime family, the authorities say. Then, through negotiations or in armed showdowns, the Albanians struck out on their own, daring to battle the Luchese and Gambino families for territory in Queens, the Bronx and Westchester County, prosecutors say.
During one of these confrontations, in August 2001 at an Astoria gambling parlor called Soccer Fever, Mr. Rudaj and at least 14 of his men served notice of their intentions to an associate of the Gambino family who ran the club, prosecutors contend in court documents.
Brandishing guns, one of Mr. Rudaj's men overturned gambling tables, another grabbed money, and a third pistol-whipped a patron, the authorities said.
"Gentlemen, the game is over," one of Mr. Rudaj's men told patrons playing barbout, a dice game. These details and more have emerged during the trial of Mr. Rudaj and five other men in Federal District Court in Manhattan. A jury is now deliberating charges against them, including racketeering, attempted murder, extortion, loan-sharking and gambling.
The defense lawyers have called the government's claims exaggerated, and although they concede that the six men conducted gambling operations, the lawyers deny that their clients belonged to a criminal organization that used violence and extortion to maintain its network of profitable gambling interests, as prosecutors have said. A verdict is possible this week.
However the case turns out, federal investigators say that the accusations against the Rudaj organization provide further proof of a phenomenon they had expected since the breakup of Yugoslavia: the growing sophistication of Balkan gangs, including the Albanian crime groups.
The Albanian groups are long established in Europe's organized crime landscape, where they are known to traffic in humans and narcotics. In this country, investigators say, the numbers of such gangs are still unknown but are likely to be concentrated in several states where Albanians have settled in the past few decades, including New York, New Jersey and Pennsylvania.
Only a tiny fraction of Albanian immigrants actually belong to criminal gangs, investigators say, adding that they start by stealing from their own communities. The more sophisticated and daring of the groups go on to more profitable and violent work, often as low-level enforcers for established crime families.
"La Cosa Nostra has used these guys like they used the Westies in the past," said Matt Heron, the head of the F.B.I.'s organized crime unit in New York, referring to the Irish-American gang that worked with the Mafia in New York in the 70's and 80's. "If you're an up-and-coming criminal enterprise and the old hands are using you to facilitate their activities, you're going to learn from watching and adapt your style to what you see in those gangs," he said.
The Albanian groups have also taken advantage of changes in the organized crime world. "One thing the Albanians and the other so-called ethnic organized crime groups have in their favor is the Mafia's decision to shift away from murder and outright violence," said Jerry Capeci, a columnist who writes about organized crime on his Web site, ganglandnews.com.
The rougher stuff has fallen to the Albanian gangs, said Tom Metz, a senior investigator with the F.B.I. "They are more prone to violence and activities like bookmaking and murder," he said.
Ethnic bonds have traditionally been important to the gangs, and outsiders rarely play central roles, said Esther Bacon, an intelligence analyst with the F.B.I. who studies the Balkan groups. Because of this, the gangs have been hard to infiltrate, law enforcement officials said. "They're like the old Sicilians," said one investigator, who spoke on the condition of anonymity because he is not authorized to speak with reporters. "They don't roll, and they don't cooperate," he said.
The Corporation operated differently, and in the network of outsiders it did business with - including Italians and Greeks - investigators found informants who agreed to wear secret recording devices, law enforcement officials said.
On those tapes and in surveillance photos, there are glimpses of the bravado that prosecutors say typifies the Corporation. In some of the conversations, prosecutors say, Mr. Rudaj describes his plans to take over Astoria from the Luchese crime family. In others, Corporation members describe beatings they participated in. Surveillance photos show Mr. Rudaj and his associates at the wake of John Gotti.
In court, jurors heard evidence of another gangland showdown between Mr. Rudaj and a Gambino leader. It happened at a gas station in New Jersey, a few days before the fight at Soccer Fever. Arnold Squitieri, then the acting boss of the Gambino family, had sought a meeting with Mr. Rudaj, prosecutors said.
At Mr. Squitieri's signal, about 30 of his men appeared, carrying bats, guns and other weapons, but the Albanians were ready. One of Mr. Rudaj's men put a gun to Mr. Squitieri's head and another pointed a shotgun at a gas pump, threatening to blow everyone up unless Mr. Squitieri's men put down their guns, according to prosecutors.
Mr. Squitieri backed down.
Alan Feuer contributed reporting for this article.
spider_007
Master Don Juan
.....and your still the poorest country in Europe - a black sheep. you have no honour and you take your own families who want to get out and make a life for them selfs, and turn them in to slaves or street wh*res on the streets of Italy or Turkey. AND YOUR STILL BROKE.
As much as there is an increase in albanians in my city and around, they are getting really stupid. Just in detroit, one killed an american kid in the bar parking lot - he got mistaken for someone else. In my city, they picked a fight with an Irish Soccer club.
as ballsy as they are, the have no brains, and eventually they'll be put in their place, one by one.
here is a joke for ya:
Dear Virus Recipient, You have just received an Albanian virus. Since we are not so technologically advanced in Albania, this is a MANUAL virus. Please delete all the files on your hard disk yourself and then send this important message to everyone you know. Thank you very much for your collaboration.
:crackup: :crackup:
As much as there is an increase in albanians in my city and around, they are getting really stupid. Just in detroit, one killed an american kid in the bar parking lot - he got mistaken for someone else. In my city, they picked a fight with an Irish Soccer club.
as ballsy as they are, the have no brains, and eventually they'll be put in their place, one by one.here is a joke for ya:
Dear Virus Recipient, You have just received an Albanian virus. Since we are not so technologically advanced in Albania, this is a MANUAL virus. Please delete all the files on your hard disk yourself and then send this important message to everyone you know. Thank you very much for your collaboration.
:crackup: :crackup:
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
spider_007
Master Don Juan
jesam bato.DonSonnySagliani
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why to you have to put politics everywhere. this is not a political discussion forum. so stick to the topic, please.
i dont care about what u think about us cuz i know we're far better (and more peacefull people than you, the scum of europe)
pusi ga idiote. zasto si ovde, jer ne mozes ni da jebes bez neke pomoci, ha? hahahahaha
i dont care about what u think about us cuz i know we're far better (and more peacefull people than you, the scum of europe)
pusi ga idiote. zasto si ovde, jer ne mozes ni da jebes bez neke pomoci, ha? hahahahaha
MindOverMatter
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You know, this is funny coming from a guy who has "Kosovo, Albania" in his user name location. You have a political statement in your very name, yet you are complaining that people are attacking you from a political standpoint. It's equal to saying that you're from Tel Aviv, Palestine, or California, Mexico.
You're right. Our country is way too poor, and we have no choice but to illegaly immigrate across the border into Albania, learn your language, and build mudhuts just so we can survive.
Here is a tip. When you want to suggest that you are peaceful people, you may wanna avoid doing it in a thread you made where you gloat about violent albanian gangs / mafias and how they're smuggling narcotics all over the world at gunpoint while following some retarded code that says you can kill anyone for any reason.
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hahaha, however we may be, we still are better than a country which started WW1, and last 15 years had 4-5 wars,OK?
stick to the topic, please!
stick to the topic, please!
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Motherfvcker. This is absolutely spot on. Butchers and pedophiles who hide behind the banner of religion.Cruise said: