So you never got over her. There is still hope assuming you have genuinely improved yourself in the meantime, so look for these signs that you're not dead in the water:
1) Her friends mention her when they see you. They know the whole story. If you had no chance the last thing they would do is to utter her name to you. But if they have been hearing gossip her peers won't be able to help mentioning her to you (and vice versa). Don't say a word, but know it's a good sign.
2) She is still angry after a long time. Indifference is the opposite of love. Hate is the negative of love and can be flipped like a light switch. You probably just need to acknowledge (not apologize for as that makes another copy) having hurt her. Don't think it's impossible for you to have hurt her even if she was losing interest first. The worst thing is when you make her feel like she's not attractive to you anymore.
3) She is still jealous of other women. This is perhaps the most selfish thing a girl can do is to dump you but then act like it's wrong for you to date other women, but it's a sign she still has feelings.
4) She responds quickly to your messages at all hours. Girls carry their phone in a holster and get every text in real time, and they are having other conversations. They have guys they want to hear from. If you're not one, you are ignored instantly. Even if they are telling you off, if they reply right away it's better than being ignored.
5) She initiates once you start communicating again. In a good relationship the girl will be initiating 2-4 times per week (and you should never communicate more than 4-5 times per week). A girl with interest (who is not scorned) will initiate a text conversation at least once a week. You can safely initiate as many times per week as she does. Make sure you are not too available early on.
6) She sends multi-part messages. When they take the time to exceed the 140 character limit, even just to rant, they are normally interested.
7) She uses her terms of endearment toward you. These vary but could be as simple as a smiley face (if she doesn't use them that often).
8) She uses sexual keywords, even in the negative sense. "I will not kiss you, I will not hug you, I will not make love to you". Now imagine if you said to your date: "I will not molest small children". See how it works? Subconciously, the "not" means little compared to the words and phrases that were used. When she uses these words in a negative sense, feed them back to her: "You will NOT make mad, passionate love to me?" She then has to think about it. Her response will be another indication - was it "Ewww"? Or "
"?
9) She wants to introduce you to one of her best friends. That is proof she has been talking about you in a positive way. If it's one of the friends shown in her FB profile picture, and/or is frequently shown in her "top 8" on her home page, it's an even better sign.
10) She's beautiful when she's angry. You can't miss this one. She can be screaming and yelling and want to kill you but there will still be an unmistakeable look in her eye. "Who do you think you are???.... or ARE you?"
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Did you ever get a girl back? What were the early signs that you can now confirm were good ones?
1) Her friends mention her when they see you. They know the whole story. If you had no chance the last thing they would do is to utter her name to you. But if they have been hearing gossip her peers won't be able to help mentioning her to you (and vice versa). Don't say a word, but know it's a good sign.
2) She is still angry after a long time. Indifference is the opposite of love. Hate is the negative of love and can be flipped like a light switch. You probably just need to acknowledge (not apologize for as that makes another copy) having hurt her. Don't think it's impossible for you to have hurt her even if she was losing interest first. The worst thing is when you make her feel like she's not attractive to you anymore.
3) She is still jealous of other women. This is perhaps the most selfish thing a girl can do is to dump you but then act like it's wrong for you to date other women, but it's a sign she still has feelings.
4) She responds quickly to your messages at all hours. Girls carry their phone in a holster and get every text in real time, and they are having other conversations. They have guys they want to hear from. If you're not one, you are ignored instantly. Even if they are telling you off, if they reply right away it's better than being ignored.
5) She initiates once you start communicating again. In a good relationship the girl will be initiating 2-4 times per week (and you should never communicate more than 4-5 times per week). A girl with interest (who is not scorned) will initiate a text conversation at least once a week. You can safely initiate as many times per week as she does. Make sure you are not too available early on.
6) She sends multi-part messages. When they take the time to exceed the 140 character limit, even just to rant, they are normally interested.
7) She uses her terms of endearment toward you. These vary but could be as simple as a smiley face (if she doesn't use them that often).
8) She uses sexual keywords, even in the negative sense. "I will not kiss you, I will not hug you, I will not make love to you". Now imagine if you said to your date: "I will not molest small children". See how it works? Subconciously, the "not" means little compared to the words and phrases that were used. When she uses these words in a negative sense, feed them back to her: "You will NOT make mad, passionate love to me?" She then has to think about it. Her response will be another indication - was it "Ewww"? Or "
"?9) She wants to introduce you to one of her best friends. That is proof she has been talking about you in a positive way. If it's one of the friends shown in her FB profile picture, and/or is frequently shown in her "top 8" on her home page, it's an even better sign.
10) She's beautiful when she's angry. You can't miss this one. She can be screaming and yelling and want to kill you but there will still be an unmistakeable look in her eye. "Who do you think you are???.... or ARE you?"
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Did you ever get a girl back? What were the early signs that you can now confirm were good ones?
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